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Do you have any idea and experience for teenagers to make friends in their life?

Ladies and gentlemen,boys and girls:).This semester I am going to have a theme teaching which is about:how to make friends.Infact I did a investigation about this term's teaching.I offered my students three topics to choose which one they like me to share with them in my teaching.90 percent chose'how to make friends '.

I am an Information Technology teacher,I feel pleased to teach my students how to use computer to design different works.Meanwhile I would like my technology teaching can be built upon a meaningful theme to lift my students in higher understanding of life.

I think my ideas and experience are so limited to guide my students.Here I needed you:all guys,come to share with me your ideas and experience which are about 'how to make friends.My students and I will appreciate all come from you.Thank you.

  • Sep 30 2013: Here are some "Friendship" Units which incorporate literature that deals with the subject of friendship.

    http://smago.coe.uga.edu/VirtualLibrary/Morgan_Sciara.pdf

    It is a week worth of activities.
    You might be able to borrow the style of the unit, and some of the techniques, to enrich your own lessons.

    Here is another link with questions that may be used for class discussion:

    http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/Friendship.html

    Usually, middle school kids love to discuss quotes.
    Here is a page full of quotes on friendship:

    http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_friendship.html

    You are going to have a lot of fun teaching this wonderful skill to young people.....
    Much success Edulover!!! from your friend, Mary M.

    For you...... http://positivechick.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/friendship-quotes-cards.jpg
  • Sep 30 2013: Look at this white board presentation.....perhaps you can glean some useful information from it:

    http://www.jw.org/zh-hant/%E8%81%96%E7%B6%93%E7%9C%9F%E7%90%86/%E5%AE%B6%E5%BA%AD/%E9%9D%92%E5%B0%91%E5%B9%B4/%E7%99%BD%E6%9D%BF%E5%8B%95%E7%95%AB%E7%89%87/%E7%94%9A%E9%BA%BD%E6%98%AF%E7%9C%9F%E6%9C%8B%E5%8F%8B/

    and in English...

    http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/teenagers/whiteboard-animations/whats-a-real-friend/

    Also, there is a publication called "Questions Young People Ask, Answers That Work" (Volumes 1 and 2)
    A pdf version of the books can be accessed here:

    http://www.jw.org/zh-hant/%E5%87%BA%E7%89%88%E7%89%A9/%E6%9B%B8%E7%B1%8D/

    In Volume 2 Section 3 of the book is entirely dedicated to Friendship issues (pages 86-105)
    The Chapters are: How Can I Deal With Loneliness, Why Did My Friend Hurt Me, Online Friendships, What's So Bad About Gossip.
    In Volume 1 Section 2 starting on page 57, the book goes directly into "How Can I Make Good Friends".

    I sure hope these links help you Edulover. The fact that the book is in pdf format will allow you to print pages out if you want to. There are self-assessments within the books, and lots of illustrations. These books are used throughout the world by parents and teachers of teenagers. They are very well written.

    If I should run across any more information, I will let you know.


    P.S. Please let the video buffer.......it takes about 20-30 seconds....then it will play :)
    • Oct 1 2013: Oh,Dear Mary:).I am touching to tear when I watched the video.It is so nice.I couldn't agree withh more about how to make good friends.I am inspired by your sharing information.Thank you,Dear Mary.I will introduce you my good friend to my students when I share the video with my students.I will tell them It is from one of my good friend:Mary:).Thank you again,dear Mary.Happy studying at university.
      • Oct 1 2013: So glad you were able to enjoy the whiteboard presentation!! Yay....

        Let me know if you are unable to open any of the websites I linked.
        Especially the ones that come with Unit studies.
        I can copy and paste the information on here so you can print it, and then I can delete it.
        Mostly, the information in reader friendly......so it's not a lot of writing.
        • Oct 1 2013: Hi Dear Mary,yes,i can watch it directly.They are really great for young students to learn what is good for them to make friends.I played them to my daughter.She said she wanted to watch it again:).Thanks,Mary:)
        • Oct 3 2013: Hi Dear Mary,Please copy some and paste them here:).Since the topc is about friendships,I like to see those friendship information here,and I can learn from them.Thank you.Mary
      • Oct 2 2013: Oooh....great!!
        I'm glad she enjoyed it.
        I think it is good advice for all ages.
        Some good advice is ageless, isn't it?

        Let us know if you succeed with the Friendship lessons!!!
        • Oct 2 2013: Hi Dear Mary:) of course I will .I am just preparing materials,that's so great I got big help from you:).I need to get ready for that,because students needed the guiding.Meanwhile it is my first time to design the teaching theme.I would like my teaching helping students .Thanks Mary:)
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    Oct 9 2013: to choose loneliness better than to have bad friends ,to forgive themselves first if they did something wrong ,ask forgiveness without shame or feel weakness ,to remember their bad experiences for a better future which is waiting for them...
  • Sep 30 2013: First,Be real but controlled (controlled in a way not to offend others if they're not into your realness)
    Second,Be kind and Smile.Usually, the rest follows.it will naturally happen if you always smile and kind to others.Greet some and wink to some people.
    Third,LOve
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    Sep 30 2013: I also think interesting activities can help our young students to communicate with each other. They are too lonely and under pressure of studying at home. They should do more out-door activities together.
    • Sep 30 2013: young stduents here just focus on examination learning,i don't know how others country students going on about it.and it concerns a lot about school's resposibility of safe.
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        Sep 30 2013: Yes, they are losing their creativities and imaginations as well as their happiness in their childhood,which may causes some mental problems in their future. The bright side is they raised good habits of study and not slack. I hope there will be a compromise between these two.
      • Oct 1 2013: Here is another site that focuses on team building.....

        http://cchealth.org/tobacco/pdf/activities.pdf
        • Oct 1 2013: Hi Dear Mary,it is such a nice material for me,I learned a lot from them.Thank you very much.
    • Oct 1 2013: I like your suggestion.........
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        Oct 1 2013: :) Compared with yours it' nothing. Thank you Mary~!
        • Oct 2 2013: I look at TED like baking a cake......some put in flour, some sugar, some eggs, some salt, some baking powder, and then some put on the icing.

          All the ingredients make a delicious dish.

          Do not compare Yoka my sister........we are all valuable and share what we have.

          Just so you know, I put a lot because I can use google to search easily.
          I think you do not have access to google right?
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        Oct 2 2013: Hi~ , sister, take it easy, I'm quite happy about it. I said what I wanna say to her. Obviously your materials are more useful and practical.:)
        And We can google in China, but I'm a slacker. :)))))
        • Oct 2 2013: Heeheehee.......ok ok I will take it easy :)))

          Oh, so you can google?
          Oh, that is wonderful.

          You are a slacker?
          Oh, that is not so wonderful.

          Well, I do love to research, and being a teacher and knowing edulover for a while now, we always discuss education matters, so I did a little bit extra for her as my friend.

          All is good Yoka!! :D

          (p.s. work on that slacking LOL)
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        Oct 3 2013: :) I'm very touched by your kindness and support to us Chinese. I have to say that I'm not always slack, when I know how to do something, I'm very quick and focused. However, my eyes seldom get green. I think you must be a very good teacher with great passion. I appreciate it very much. :)

        It's so good to be here with you all~.:)
        • Oct 3 2013: Lol,Dear Mary spreads her kindness all over the world .I deem so:)
        • Oct 3 2013: I think you caught the TED bug......it's an epidemic....a lovely one at that. :)
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        Oct 3 2013: Dear Mary, you have been deemed as the Goddess ----spreading you kindness all over the world. :)))))))))
        • Oct 3 2013: Dear Yoka....Oh No...not Goddess.....just a happy collaborator..........I'm happy just doing a little bit here and there.....

          How did you make friends when you were a teenager?
          I'm assuming you are not a teenager any more.

          I found it hard to make friends when I was a teenager. I was so shy.
          I walked looking down at the floor......
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        Oct 3 2013: Morning~, sister~! I was kidding but I do think you're kind....:))))

        I'm sometimes a kidult, just looking for some fun.:) If it hurt you, I apologize.

        When I was a teenager, I didn't have much trouble making friends. I didn't have so much homework and could play with my classmate. :)
        • Oct 4 2013: Morning, sister, I am also a kidult.......HA!!

          How nice that your friends lived close by and you got to play after school.
          My school was very far away from my home, and elderly people were my neighbors.
          So now, I am making up for all the lost time. :)

          I think that today, many fine opportunities are lost to meet people because we have our eyes on technological gizmos. Have you seen this short film?

          I hope you can see youtube.

          http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hJi_KMo9ebc
        • Oct 4 2013: Here is the same video on vimeo, just in case.

          http://vimeo.com/47489145
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        Oct 4 2013: Thx Mary, I know what you mean. My childhood is full of happiness and never back again.But chatting with you is really a happy time too.And hope you enjoy it as much as you can with your friends too. Thank you.
  • Oct 12 2013: Hi Dear all friends:).Thank you very much for your comments.everyone of them inspiring me to design my teaching works now:).Thank you.I really hope I could have a space to share my whole teaching to you.Maybe I can use camera to maintain the teaching process,then share them in a podcast websites.Where podcasts are free online?that's pity I can't access Youtube.
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    Oct 9 2013: Hi Edulover:>)
    How about "pen pals"......or the modern version.....computer pals. Connect the kids in your class with kids in a similar class in another part of the world? They could learn about different cultures and make friends while using their computer skills:>)
    • Oct 10 2013: Hi Dear Colleen:).Children learnt to use internet to make friends from all over the world fast.They don't wait teachers to teach them how to use internet to make friends.What they needed is:to improve your recognition and critical thinking,Judge what is good,what is bad...I will use internet and computer to design various works which are about friendship:How to make good friends,and how to be others' good friends.Thanks Dear Colleen:)
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        Oct 10 2013: Yes, Edulover, I'm sure children learn to use the internet to make friends all over the world fast!

        What I was suggesting, is to connect your class, with another similar class, and connect each child with a particular friend in the other class, in a school setting in another part of the world, to learn something together, and make friends while doing it.

        For example, the classes could watch a TED video, the class can discuss it, and each student, with his/her "pal" in the other part of the world can discuss it

        You could use your idea to use the internet and computer to design various works about friendship, and share them with kids from both classes.....both parts of the world. It seems like it could be a fun and educational adventure for all of you:>)

        If it is not the kind of idea you are seeking, it is OK:>)
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          Oct 10 2013: There's an online game, called "SuperBetter" that gives lots of tips and hints for ways to increase emotional, physical and other types of resilience. In the emotional, or community resilience categories, it encourages you to connect with others in a positive way. It's made me more conscious of how I interact with others and how my students interact with others. It might be a good venue for students to learn to reach out in ways that are beneficial for them and for other people--either online or in-person.

          To see Jane McGonigal's TED talks:
          http://www.ted.com/talks/jane_mcgonigal_the_game_that_can_give_you_10_extra_years_of_life.html
        • Oct 11 2013: That's really a great idea:).I think it will be the most exciting thing and high motivation for students to design their various works to share with another part of the world teenagers to make friends to each other.I will try to pay more attention to it.Meanwhile I hope if any teacher likes to join in my teaching with your friends,it must be my pleasure to have u to keep our education and learning moving together.Please contact me anytime.Thank you!

          Thank you Dear Colleen:)
    • Oct 13 2013: Hi Dear Colleen,thanks for trying the website I shared here.I applied a popular Podcast website in China.So you saw some others uploaded videos too.I am trying to find a better Podcast which is just for Learning.Thank you.
  • Oct 3 2013: **** From smago.coe.uga.edu:

    Key Concepts to discuss with the class:

    What brings people together in friendship?
    What factors make it difficult for people to become friends?
    What types of qualities/actions make a person a good friend to another?
    What types of situations/issues can challenge a friendship?
    How can we go about resolving or dealing with these situations?

    The site also mentions scaffolding which is really very productive and worthwhile. And they encourage the teacher to introduce literature that is appropriate....short stories and works of fiction and nonfiction where friendships are part of the plot.

    Then, there are these suggestions for activities:

    1..To keep a journal based on responses to issues in the literature the reader finds personally
    relevant or important and reflections on their personal experiences with friendship and view of the topic
    as the unit progresses.

    2... To produce a children's book based on some idea or incident from the unit's short stories or
    poetry.

    3...To produce a creative narrative based on a response to some idea or incident from either
    the literature or their personal journal entries.

    ***** From good character.com:

    HOW TO BE A GOOD FRIEND

    To have good friends you must be a good friend. Here are some of the ways good friends treat each other:

    • Good friends listen to each other.

    • Good friends don't put each other down or hurt each other's feelings.

    • Good friends try to understand each other's feelings and moods.

    • Good friends help each other solve problems.

    • Good friends give each other compliments.

    • Good friends can disagree without hurting each other.

    • Good friends are dependable.

    • Good friends respect each other.

    • Good friends are trustworthy.

    • Good friends give each other room to change.

    • Good friends care about each other.

    --There are discussion questions on the bottom of the page....but too many to copy paste.
    • Oct 4 2013: Hi Dear Mary:)nice pieces.I appreciate them all.
      I am also learning a lot from friendships theme which I am going to have with my students.That's why I often feel teaching job keeps me learning better.

      When I was a kid,I had lots of childhood friends.we played all kinds of games,talked,went to swim in summer,stayed at home and sitted in a circle listening old stories from elder people...so much fun:)
      • Oct 4 2013: It's nice when you enjoy a fun childhood with lots of friends. I think that living in an area with a lot of kids in the neighborhood is nice. And having a big family with lots of cousins is also nice.

        But, sadly, not all children grow up in that environment. Some, because of circumstances grow up around adults, and they mature early, in the sense that they enjoy conversations with older ones, and not so much the foolishness of games and silly talk. These are the ones that have difficulty making friends with kids their own age. I have met many children like this.

        And also there are the shy kids, who are scared to talk.

        I think it is easy to learn how to make friends......it is putting that knowledge to work that is the challenge.
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    Oct 1 2013: When a person becomes his/her own best friend it's much easier to make external friendships! Everything starts with how you relate to yourself.
    • Oct 2 2013: Hi Dear Simona Rich,that's quite right.Once we can start everything to relate ourselves at first,that's fine.how we treat friends as well as treat ourselves alike.That's not so many people can do so.I like to use'exchange position' thinking to deal with things among my friends.I think that's good for me to understand lots of things between my friends and I.
  • Sep 30 2013: This can be potentially a dangerous topic. You really need to bear in mind that such questions as "How can I make friends" can come from truely vulnerable young minds where making friends is a priority and would accept any recognition they can find. These individuals, if weak-minded can be spotted by thierill-willed peers and really abuse that. "The bully that turns the bullied into another bully in his gang" for example.

    On the other hand, once you've given that a thought, I think this will potentially be one of the most successful and fun classes you can teach, you can have such a great bonding experience with your students.

    Good luck to you.
    • Oct 1 2013: Hi Dear Da Way,thanks for the reminding,I will pay more attention to peers bullying cases happen.Thanks agian:)
  • Sep 30 2013: Agree with Fritzie, a common group goal with mutual respect really builds friendship. Just be careful if the group goal is based on individual achievement alone. Good examples are gymnastic teams or chess teams. You have to make them bond in some manner.
  • Sep 30 2013: If one looks at personalities one mayh find that most of their friends fit two or three types. Pre-Qualify?
    Or you can mimic the target's personality. See the Nicholas Boothman books.
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    Sep 30 2013: I would probably first have them consider how they have made friends until now. As they are teenagers, would they not have grown up making friends? I would have them think about how they got to know their cousins, their neighbors, and their childhood friends. What have they done together? Many people find it easiest to make friends with people with whom they work together on common interests. Are they on sports teams or in dance classes where they have made friends?

    I think this is a great area for getting kids to realize and share how much they already know.
    • Sep 30 2013: Hi Dear Fritzie,how do u understand common interests?does it mean some sports?entertaiments?My students are in senior high school grade one,their ages are from fourteen to fifteen.they are cool and getting independent on themseves to deal with lots of things.But infact,what is a healthy friendship,how to deal with friends...I think they might like us to guide them a bit.

      That's cool,I will do what u shared to me:getting kids to realize and share how much they already know.
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        Sep 30 2013: That's an age group with which I have a lot of experience. Here many kids become good friends with those who are involved in the same activities. For example, the kids in the drama program rehearse together and learn to act together. The kids in orchestra or band practice together, enjoy the excitement and nerves of preparing for the performance, and celebrate together afterwards. The kids on the cross country or soccer teams practice together, encourage each other, ride the bus to games, and console each other or celebrate afterwards. The kids on the math team or science olympiad team practice together and build things together. The kids who work on the literary magazine become friends. Kids who volunteer together may become friends in the normal course of doing things together and sharing the challenges, the highs, and the lows.

        I think that they have been learning how to play well together, work together, be respectful toward each other, and so forth since they were little and the rules for that do not change very much when they are fourteen or fifteen. Dating is a different situation, but at least where my kids went to school, there is very little of that yet at that age.