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Should we be more concerned with what to speak up about, or what to shut up about?

i hear a lot of philosophical quotes that say things along the lines of "silence is golden", and about listening a being silent. And lots of thoughts that we have that are better left unsaid. And I also hear many talk about speaking out, and being confident in your speech. And people regret the things they didn't do more than the things they did do.
Which should be more of our concern? What is a more beneficial mindset? Eliminating what doesn't need to be spoken, or encouraging what does need to be said? And is this more of a question of morality, ethics, or philosophical? Or is it all of the above?

Here's my personal philosophy on this subject:
The problem in this world is people tend to speak up when they need to shut up, an shut up when they need to speak up. But we don't notice when people shut up, so we assume that people are idiots that need to shut up. Instead of geniuses that need to speak up. And with this assumption, we discourage speech more than we encourage it.

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    Sep 30 2013: We should speak for the right and true. We should never be quiet in the face of injustice and selfishness.
    But for impact, wisdom knows the right time to speak. We should not just speak for the sake of speaking; we should speak to be heard. That means we have to consider our audience and the time they are most receptive to our words.
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    Oct 1 2013: I admire the art of speech.I like this saying: Speak only when your words are more beautiful than silence.
    And I have run across other interesting sayings which I'd like to share with you:
    Saying 100sentences instead of one, they are writers with literary grace.
    Saying 10sentences instead of one, they are professors with knowledge.
    Saying one word for one word, they are lawyers with cautiousness.
    Saying 1sentence and keep 1 for a little leeway, they are diplomats with preciseness.
    Saying 1sentence out of 10, they are politicians with subtleness.
    Saying 1sentence out of 100, they are prestige monks with an arcane truth.
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    Oct 1 2013: Austin, yes! there are many contradictory concepts in our life. Being silent or Being talkative, is also there. Philosophical thoughts guide us to be silent, but others not. Philosophical thoughts are concern with finding your tureself, knowing the knower. The only way to know the true ourself , passes by thru pure silence,, this let you meet the ultimate you. So many method of meditation has been developed by our ancestors to teach us the art of being silent. That is why many philosophical thoughts prefer us to keep silence, even there must not be noise of a single thought in one's mind to attain the ultimate state. This is one aspect and belongs mainly to inwards peoples.

    Another aspects for outwardly people. Those wants success in life, want to compete others, want fame and prosperity, must be mouthy and diffusive.

    However, both seems opposite to each other and mind can make us think to choose one. But i know, a man is capable to have both attributes, both state, at the same time. :)
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    Sep 30 2013: We need to think about both at all times! But good reminder, and your philosophy is beautifully worded.