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What are the difficulties of being an extrovert?

I am an introvert. And I have my own personal difficulties from being so. But I was curious to know what might be difficult for you extroverted people out there, because of your extroversion. Or what misconceptions there might be about extroversion. What are the pros and cons of extroversion?
And just so we're on the same page of what introversion and extroversion are, here's a couple videos on defining introversion and extroversion.
"Introvert vs. Extrovert Conversation"

"Introverts and Extroverts Have Different Brains"


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  • Oct 20 2013: I identify most with an extrovert persona, but I can only speak for myself, so these are some of the problems that I encounter:

    For me, socialization is what recharges me. The drawback to this is that people aren't always available to hang out. People move, they get busy, etc. So, when I can't find anyone who is available to hang out, I get really depressed, tired, and unmotivated. I like spending time with myself. But, if someone invited me to something- I'd give up the alone time in a heartbeat.

    If you have a shortage of extrovert(ish) friends, your life can feel like an uphill battle trying to get your introvert friends to hang out. I understand that being alone is what recharges introvertish people, but hearing "oh, yeah I would like to hang out- but Survivor is on tonight." from a good friend gets really frustrating. It's hard to feel like your personal worth is very good after you get turned down for a television program. I want to go out! I want to get pizza at the local pizza place and talk and people watch, maybe get some tea afterward- maybe go on a spontaneous evening trip to the beach...and they want to sit and watch survivor.

    I get the impression that a lot of people think extroverts are socially-skilled but aren't very smart. I generally try to keep conversations with acquaintances very light, jovial, and uncontroversial, so nobody gets worked up or offended. However, I get the occasional person that walks away thinking that I'm dim witted. What's most unsettling about this, is that these people don't try to broach more intellectual topics with me before making up their mind. I'm a scientist with an extensive art background. I have things that I want to talk about. I will admit that I get turned off by intellectual snobbery though. What does attention to studying without attention to how you treat your fellow humans matter? Especially when you know that the universe will most likely eventually cease to exist, along with your books and bones.

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