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What are the difficulties of being an extrovert?

I am an introvert. And I have my own personal difficulties from being so. But I was curious to know what might be difficult for you extroverted people out there, because of your extroversion. Or what misconceptions there might be about extroversion. What are the pros and cons of extroversion?
And just so we're on the same page of what introversion and extroversion are, here's a couple videos on defining introversion and extroversion.
"Introvert vs. Extrovert Conversation"

"Introverts and Extroverts Have Different Brains"


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  • Sep 30 2013: First - I was at a local center and the speaker stated he wanted to eliminate the words introvert and extrovert because of the stigma that comes with both. Same as mentally retarded - stigma of title. I don't have my notes but his new catch phrase was a positive spin on the personality traits. Second - being an extrovert is a lot of fun and can also be very lonely. Sometimes friends and family have a distaste for how open an extrovert is ( in which I am ) and fear being around them. Sometimes I am honest in my actions and thoughts and people cannot handle having to approach their own feelings and when this happens I feel like I disappointed someone with what I have said or done. At the end of the day tho I am very happy to be who and what I am. I am honest in as many things as I can be - there will be no guessing. I ask questions when I don't understand things and most times I feel satisfied. When I don't speak my mind or ask questions I feel I am acting with less information then I should be and I feel incomplete. On the other hand - when I know that I should not or cannot speak my mind or behave like I want - I write. This is the lonely part. Being in my own mind I don't get the interactions that I crave. BUT I know that sometimes its very necessary to hold back the extroverted behaviors so as not to make others shake their head when I walk in the room : )
    • Oct 2 2013: Stigma is only attached to introvert.
      • Oct 2 2013: No - I seen it go both ways. My sister and my ex hate my extroversion - makes them uncomfortable that I am so open. On the other hand I have respect for the introverted person - a healthy introverted person - they show control over what they share and how they share it.

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