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Should you go back to a place or stick with the memory?

A recent return visit to Thailand and more specifically Ko Phi Phi has prompted me to consider the question 'Should you ever go back?' or to phrase it another way 'do our memories lie to us?'
In the 6 year gap, according to my memories, a lot has change in particular the commercialisation of the island as a tourist attraction and the development of the tourism industry in the region. The remote island paradise with pristine beaches where you could hang out and haggle with the local taxi boat drivers is no more, the first thing that hits you when you land on the island is a charge and then it spirals from there... even a hike to the viewpoint now incurs a charge! And the previously beautiful and remote Phi Phi Lay is a dirty over run tourist trap with a charge to see the famous 'beach' in Maya Bay. I enjoy travelling and exploring new places and can safely say that i will be going further afield in the future to try and reclaim excitement of the memory of Island Paradise that i found in Thailand 6 years ago.
However a small part of me has to consider the possibility of rose tinted glasses looking back? Or has reality shifted that much that I now have a replacement and more disappointing memory of the islands?

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    Sep 28 2013: If you return to a beloved place, try to focus on the good things. If you go farther afield to try to find new unspoiled places, remember it is exactly the influx of visitors that will alter those new places just as your old favorites were altered. You are part of the problem, as it were.

    Caretakers of elderly people with Alzheimers often note that old friends stop visiting because they want to remember the good times. I don't think that is the loving thing to do.
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    Sep 26 2013: You realize, Ruth, the solution to your problem is for nothing to ever change? How awful would that be?
  • Sep 29 2013: Before you go back, you have to mentally prepare yourself. The first question to ask yourself is, if I don't like what I see, am I in the position now to do something about it? If not, you have the option to either not go back or just to embrace what you see when you do.
  • Sep 29 2013: Hi Ruth,
    After being away for some years, I now visit the house where I grew up regularly. Every time I visit I have many happy and nostalgic memories of that house. Looking out its front window I am reminded that the field next to and spent so many happy days as a lad, playing hurling and gaelic football is now a factory and car park and gone forever. It was only when I spoke with someone who remembered playing those same sports in the field where my house was built that I realised that the house I was so fond of was trampling on the fond memories of someone else just as the factory is trampling on mine. In other words change is inevitable and we are better off realising and accepting that. I still enjoy my visits home and re-visiting my old haunts despite the changes. I also enjoy discovering new places and people and even revisiting old ones, sometimes to see what as changed. I hope you can too.
  • Sep 26 2013: I guess you are feeling more impacted since you are visiting after a looong period and not seen change happen in front of your eyes. Go back if that will make you happy.
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    Sep 26 2013: If something good changed and you can't stop its changing, let it be part of your good memory.