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What is it about asking for help that makes people less willing to ask? Is it easier to just put what you need rather than request it?

It seems that so many people in our world are adverse to the idea of asking for help or what they need. Why is it that people seem to hate to request things? Why do we feel shame, disgust, hatred when we rely on others?

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  • Sep 23 2013: I always ask for help when I need it :) I don't consider it shameful or indicative that I am less capable. Everyone is good at different things and there is a reason for collaboration and team work. It's more efficient this way too.

    Perhaps being so adverse to asking for help has been subtly seeped into our head through competitions: what makes you the best candidate? What makes you better above all others? If we are better, why seek help from the lesser?
    • Sep 24 2013: I like your observations. Your remark:

      " Everyone is good at different things and there is a reason for collaboration and team work. "

      ......reminds me of something I once heard from some geezer friend of mine....."It is not WHAT you know, but rather WHO you know.......and HOW you know them"

      all is relationship

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