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Mark Laing

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Why are we so offended when someone lies to us?

If it is true that all people lie, then we have all had the experience of lying to someone and being lied to by someone. Sometimes lying could be necessary for the sake of maintaining safety or civility. Yet if we are comfortable in lying then why are we so offended when someone lies to us?

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    Sep 26 2013: "Everybody lies." A memorable quote from Dr. House. Our human nature consists of multiple invisible forces that define our decisions and actions, but one that is the most often betrayed is trust. Trust is betrayed by a failure to meet a request or false pretense thereof, and the most common form of this is lying. We are heavily offended by lying because our expectation for whoever we have placed our trust in has not been fulfilled and it wounds our morale. We feel like we are not good enough for the person who has betrayed our trust, and that disappointment quickly turns to anger because of the fast reaction.

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