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The 'your child is gifted' predisposition.

Have you heard a parent say this to another parent "Your child is so gifted..."? Then you are at the right place. Parents often believe some children are gifted, while it may be true in some cases such as Mozart or was he? I believe every child is 'gifted' and that it is our job as parents to open the beautiful gift wrapped up so tightly by the creator. Agree or disagree, I would love to hear from my friends here on TED. The aim of this conversation is to share the wonderful gift of life we have in our children and how as parents, as their guardians, we have the most crucial responsibilities during the early days of childhood and how it may well shape our future generation.


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  • Sep 22 2013: Let me suggest some counter examples that says parental guidance or encouragement should be done in moderation rather than indulged in high pressure. A child's natural gift or talent must be recognized, encouraged and nurtured by his/her parents. But one must realize that there are many exceptions due to subjective biases or the changing nature of a child's interest or devotion.
    A. A child's talent/gift may not necessarily be recognized in early ages. Also, a child may change his/her interest as he/she grows. Moreover, there could be false logic by the family friends that if the child's parent is a physician,say, then most people usually believe that he/she is gifted in medicine.
    B. Even if the child is truly gifted in certain things, the parents should encourage and give sufficient support for development. Because, if the child is truly gifted and interested in the particular field, the success will come out without too much of an hard push. Sometimes the gifted child will excel as long as there is no inhibition or roadblock in the way.
    C. We must recognize that, especially for a very gifted child, he/she may become excellent in two or more fields, so the parents shouldn't favor one and discourage the others, as long as he/she could easily handle both or all of them.
    D. Finally, A child could sometime succeed in one or more fields or skills without the support or his/her parents.(because the parent(s) may not even recognize the talent in the child.) The child could get help or encouragement from a teacher or coworker when his/her talent is recognized by them in one way or another.
    • Sep 22 2013: A. Parents who spend more time with their kids in the early stages and during their major developmental milestones are more likely to spot something interesting about their offspring. This could be as we'll developed as great musical talent or well developed spatial sense or numerical abilities or simply a stare into the sky. We may not conclude that they will become the next Vivaldi, Euler or Newton but we can at least tap into these potential qualities and provide more avenues to explore their prominent side of their brains. I completely agree about false logic, we see more commonly perhaps for example in Indian families -the pressure to become an engineer or a doctor but that's another thread of conversation.
      B. I agree with this - sometimes the best of the talents just don't need prodding. More often than not children are like vines, they need direction and support to grow otherwise they are all over the place. With just the right support - not too much not too little, they will yield best of the fruits in years to come.
      C. Very true. Gifted nature can come in different forms. A child could be very good with numbers, very good in listening skills and thus music in general and has a very good artistic bent of mind. These qualities can be useful in many walks of life and as parents we must help children apply their strengths to situations that fully utilize their capabilities with a sensible balance.
      D. It is very sad if a parent hasn't recognized their child's strengths. Parents must help each other and other parents to be able to support our children better, spend quality time with them without imposing our views on them. And let them make mistakes but stand by them in case they need a hand. To let them make silly mistakes early on in life and learn from them rather than make big blunders later on in life when it's a more serious ball game. Other than that, if an outsider recognizes something more than what a parent already knows then that's a bonus.

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