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The 'your child is gifted' predisposition.

Have you heard a parent say this to another parent "Your child is so gifted..."? Then you are at the right place. Parents often believe some children are gifted, while it may be true in some cases such as Mozart or was he? I believe every child is 'gifted' and that it is our job as parents to open the beautiful gift wrapped up so tightly by the creator. Agree or disagree, I would love to hear from my friends here on TED. The aim of this conversation is to share the wonderful gift of life we have in our children and how as parents, as their guardians, we have the most crucial responsibilities during the early days of childhood and how it may well shape our future generation.

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  • Sep 21 2013: I agree. But when the other side is your child and your friends say your child is 'gifted' thats when you get tickled. Its not giftedness but hard work and support that gives a child the right frame to thrive in. And this is quite serious because for many kids this is missed opportunity when parents assume that their child is not gifted and hence is unlike their friend's child who is so good at everything. Parents must support and provide intellectual and moral nourishment from the early stages apart from providing all the materialistic needs of the child.
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      Sep 21 2013: You write "Parents must support and provide intellectual and moral nourishment from the early stages apart from providing all the materialistic needs of the child.".Is this a controversial or uncommon point of view where you live?
      • Sep 21 2013: It's neither controversial nor uncommon and is location independent (I live in London if that helps) Its just that sometimes and often times we notice that us parents are so busy trying to give our children the best that we may often overlook what is actually needed for a true long term investment. Pressures of the society and the daily grind consume us so much that we fail to stop and look back and recheck.
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          Sep 21 2013: When you notice this in yourself ("often times we notice that us parents are too busy..."), what do you do, if you don't mind sharing?
      • Sep 21 2013: I don't mind sharing which is why I started off this conversation topic. The situation with us has been so far fruitful. Our child is 8 years old and we have always taken the time to connect with her. Which is why she comes off as a gifted child in our circle of friends which I think is not so. We work very hard with her and we believe that positive parenting and being a good role model actually matters. For a simple example, if we want our daughter to be sincere and thoughtful in her ways, we are sincere and thoughtful in our actions so she learns it first hand. If we make a mistake we don't mind accepting it and apologising for it and she does the same. Every action shapes our child's mind and we clearly see that Unless parents do it, a child wont know it and will not have a right gauge to differentiate right from wrong. What is your experience?
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          Sep 21 2013: Absolutely the same experience as yours, although my children are much older. But that to me is not surprising, as I think this is by far the most common way parents choose to relate to their children or believe they relate to their children.

          I think parents often assume others are not parenting in as productive or enlightened a way as they are, but this assumption is typically based on not being intimately familiar with other people's values related to family or how others raise their children.

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