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In school can, and should, "Emotional Intelligence" be taught?

Read the brief New York Times article before you share your ideas about this. Well beyond the scope of the three R's, does this usurp parental responsibility?


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19 Tedsters offered 91 comments on the question. 33 Thumbs-up. Read them all to see the clear trend. Educators do not see EI as an appropriate curriculum item. The day-to-day handling of individual issues of emotional turmoil is part of the teacher's lot in life and most of them agree they call for privacy, and the public airing of the details of a students home life is not proper. Folks who grew into adulthood without "normal" family support and guidance see the real need for teaching children, in class along with reading and writing, how to manage their emotions. Some say it takes a village to raise a child, others say it takes a family. The NYT link is biased in favor of teaching EI in school. Empathy figured in as did usurpation. A spirited, polarized discussion. Thanks to the contributors.

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    Sep 17 2013: Hi Edward,
    The premise seems to be that educators are emotionally stable people themselves. I would guess the truth is that they are a cross-section; just like the mums & dads. Looking back, many of my issues were with the teachers themselves. Children are unlikely to share this with the source of their inhibitions.. I went back to college in mid-life, & found some of the lecturers & students sharing their problems with me. This is of course perfectly natural, but not sharing with the rest of the class.
    For me emotional developments takes place by favourable interaction & love between human beings. Our self esteem needs building from an early age. We need to love & to be loved by those around us. There is no quick fix. Let's let the poor educators get on with the job they are qualified for. Sure, if you are an understanding sort, then children will come to you for advice. Great, advise & encourage, but respect the child's privacy.
    A child came to me once & shared that her mum was having an affair with the headmaster. That would have gone down well. :-)
    Who dreams up these ideas anyway ?

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      Sep 17 2013: Hi Peter, you bring out a good point when you state that "the premise seems to be that educators are emotionally stable themselves"..........when "in truth they are a cross-section, just like the mums and dads".

      That is why this kind of interaction is such a sensitive thing.

      I think children naturally express concerns in their lives to loving adults who they feel comfortable with.
      Teachers have a great responsibility when they are nurturing and caring.
      We have to be very careful how we handle these issues.....lives are involved.

      You ask, "who dreams up these ideas anyway?".............the powers that be.....and they fork out money for people to play around with these ideas.........here, look at the Grants page from our government:

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      Sep 17 2013: Thanks Peter for a lucid expression regarding the inappropriateness of saddling teachers with responsibility for something they are untrained, and very likely unmotivated, to provide. So far everyone agrees there is a problem of young people being without understanding regarding how to manage their emotions. This question asks if schoolteachers are the appropriate source for that training.

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