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Could the publication of a persons life for others to read and view, have moral and mental health implications for those followed?

Memories form who we are as individuals, they give us our perspective, one of their most defining features is that they can be forgotten.

If we use technology to record every detail of our lives, through carefully constructed digital persona's, will we still be able to grow and evolve our identities naturally? Or will we be held in place by a need for consistency, that is enforced by the expectations of those around us?

For example, Fable, A 4 year old girl, has had only the best parts of her life documented up to this point as a popular blog by her mother, how could this affect her life?


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    Sep 11 2013: Is your question more about what whether people choose to share an accurate picture of themselves and others online, or are you concerned that recording detail may not allow people to forget things that it might be healthy to forget?

    If someone takes a roll of digital photos of you and puts them in an album or on a site, do you think there is any harm in removing the ones in which you blinked or looked ill or something?

    In terms of documenting in the blog only the best parts of a four year old's life, it is very much like not sharing with everyone in the family photos of when the child was feeling sick in the car. If, on the other hand, a parent's parenting style is to send the child a consistent message that she is perfect in every way and never makes mistakes, that can lead a child to believe that she must be perfect and therefore to fear undertaking challenging things at which she might fail.

    But I think keeping only pretty photos in the album does not at all suggest that sort of parenting message.
    • Sep 11 2013: While I agree that there is a degree of self censorship by people in almost all walks of life, such as family photo albums generally only contain the good times, I am more concerned that it is being published to the world.
      It has been seen many times during history that when a child is followed by the public from a young age, that it can cause a serious pressure on the child to achieve, to live up to the idealized reputation that has formed around them by others.
      When I read through this article:
      I became concerned for the children of the future that might have something like this done to them, they are essentially being turned into micro-celebrities. Some of these children will have the willpower to burst the rose-tinted bubble of expectations that is forming around them, but I worry that some won't.
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        Sep 11 2013: As someone who has worked with lots and lots of kids, I doubt that mom's blog about the little one is going to have such an effect unless there is something else problematic going on at home. Your description does not read to me like someone's being labeled and marketed as a prodigy very young. It doesn't seem like the press will pick this up.

        As I wrote before, what is going on at home is probably more important.

        Most children will go to school, interact with other kids and adults, have struggles, be better at some things and worse than others, recognize their mistakes, and so forth. They may have a chance to be embarrassed by relatives who brag about them and even ask them to "Quit it, Mom!"

        If this is your own child, you can discuss this matter directly with the pediatrician. If it is your niece, you can probably ask your own health care provider.

        The world is probably not reading and believing every word of mother's blog.

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