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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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    Aug 26 2013: No, I am a single mother of 2 and work full time as a drafter/engineer.
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      Aug 29 2013: Thank you for sharing your experience in life. I think all of us will get trapped in dilemma having to make a tough choice sometimes. I like your picture, it makes me believe somehow you must have the power to hang on there and take some small steps to balance your true self and your ouside world during your new trip starting from present to the future. Your topic remind me of the importance of enjoying my current life and cherishing what I have now. When I encounter the same problem , I will tell myself I'm not lonely ,there are other people who also have this kinda problem and I should be optimistic enough to solve it.

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