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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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    Aug 23 2013: I think you could always focus on your current self. Treat yourself well and never think too much about the past.
    If you're tired with current self , maybe changing to another totally different enironment(changing your job,move to another country....) will bring you renascence in your self-evaluation.You could let the old self go just as let the time pass by. Just enjoy the movie directed and acted by yourself at different period of your life.Every role in the play is different aspects of you.
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      Aug 23 2013: i think that's not a solution, you are talkin like we have lots of money to move to another country etc, that's not general. the fact is we can't let go our past, we will always remember it, if the question said how, so my answer is just looking back to my old life but keep heading forward.
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        Aug 23 2013: That's just some examples of changing environment that makes you feeling like death. one should remember his past but I mean don't think too much about it when he heads towards his future. Be concentrated on your present performance to make it better,every present segment will become part of your past.I think the best way is to change one's attitude towards his current status, treat himself well ,be confident ,stop to think what he can change and make decision to try to change. If he cannot change the environment or he doesn't want to change it, he'd better change himself instead.
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          Aug 24 2013: agree with that. the thing is do what you want to do, and don't do what you don't want to do,
          just be yourself ! :)

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