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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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    Aug 23 2013: There is some great discussion going on here. I love seeing the different view points/perspectives on what this question has meant and does mean to everyone else out there. I'd like to pose a new question now that occurs to me after reading all of your replies. I know on a personal level that I have some trouble with letting go to just BE. Not because I disagree with the concept but because I've been so mutable for the majority of my life that there's not root structure or one specific core truth that I have found to be my own focal point/true self. I don't feel that this is a negative or wrong way of being but it does make it different to focus the energy and simplify (again for me personally...I won't speak for everyone). One of the biggest issues because of this and because I performed for so long is learning the art of validating my happiness from within and then standing firm and maintaining that strength. A great deal of what I've put out into the universe was done on a stage and validation came externally. After living that way for a majority of my life and having no reason to question it then, I find it hard now to turn off the need for that "atta boy" and accept my own with equal power and assurance. I'd love to hear everyone's thoughts on self validation vs. the external. Again, I understand and agree with the concept but I'm a bit out of practice. So for the sake of my own clumsy attempt at evolving here, I'll ask for some input ;)
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      Aug 23 2013: Let the external validation be spontaneous, disordered, uncontrollable. You cant and don't want to plan an external entity for validation of anything. For example, A compliment is better when your not expecting it. So let it be not expected all the time. Internally always see yourself moving with life. "Like Water." as Bruce Lee would say. "Water is always flowing so you got to keep on flowing". Inward we must always acknowledge are achievements and failures in the now and understand and learn in the past. I think your pat on the back will be greater once you have achieved a goal for yourself and people recognize your achievement when you have moved to the next. Just try not to get caught up of where you were and what the future can possibly be with your goals and achievements...just keep on flowing. Again I humbly express my opinion. Thanks.

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