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Kat VonTesla

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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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    Aug 22 2013: This is a great topic. I think we must first look at the problem or problems. Jiddu Krishnamurti always referred to "how we think as people as the root of the problem". We must first change that before we can have a solution. So, a solution for a problem that many will go through but no clear path....and that is based on trying to organize life. The organization of life is the control factor that we try to do on a external level. This is a problem because you can t control how life flows. We can make all the psychological hypothesis on how to better cope with emotions but, the problem is controlling these things. What happened to understanding, accepting, and being that person with flaws and potentials.

    So, how do you appreciate that person we are growing to be or who we are. Conflict.....I think conflict is when we compare what we are to someone we would like to be. Or we want to be someone, to be an idol, someone inspiring to impress another, or for the gain of recognition. Especially in America, it is slapped in your face on what we should be at an early age. But what is wrong with the man or woman that likes a non stressful job cleaning houses. Someone says "Oh wow, you can do better than that." but, that person has no stress and is content with that lifestyle. What if ambition was measured on what makes you happy. What if the schools were teaching on the trials of life, massive cultural acceptance, and critical thinking and much more. An education to enhance the creation of the mind and acceptance for the unique abilities we all have.

    So, how do we become comfortable when we have been programmed and brainwashed for so long. LET GO! Accept your flaws physically and mentally. Accept your brilliant difference from one another. Accept people that look at you for YOU and not what the classifications are in our society. Accept that happiness is letting go of the substance inside us, the conflict of what we should be. Accept your self for you in grow from there

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