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Kat VonTesla

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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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  • Aug 22 2013: I've been struggling with this idea of letting go and finding myself for some time as well. My current hypothesis is that maybe the best way to do this is to help others let go and find themselves. That maybe by finding it within us to try and really understand what someone is going through and letting it be what it is, we will allow ourselves to do the same.

    I actually have launched an art project off of this concept, where I hope to take 12 strangers, get to know them for 3 months, and turn their stories into paintings. If this seems interesting to you, I actually invite you to take a look :) Its a work in progress, but I'm very hopeful about what this will lead to.


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