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Kat VonTesla

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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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    Aug 22 2013: Thank YOU Juliette I really appreciate your comment! I'm navigating my way around TED and I hope to become more active on here!
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      Aug 22 2013: Hi Andrea :-)
      I am still green myself....but I can share with you my early lessons I learned as I joined TED conversations.....on every single comment there is a reply button ( upper right hand corner, red "Reply")...when you click on it a new window opens directly below that comment. As you type you will see the red word "Reply" change to "Replying....".
      What this feature does is that it sends an email to the person you are responding to ....and that is the only way that person knows to come back and read your response.

      ....today I randomly stumbled upon your message to me and of course my gladness is multiplied ...first for your presence and second for knowing that my words reached you ❤ ❤.

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