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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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  • Aug 17 2013: There is a lot of great advice. I would say not reinvent yourself but evolve to fit your current state. Now let me cliche you to death - 8>))

    Billy Joel's "Keeping the Faith"

    You can get just so much from a good thing
    You can linger too long in your dreams
    Say goodbye to the "Oldies But Goodies"
    Cause the good ole days weren't always good
    And tomorrow ain't as bad as it seems

    Satchel Paige - "Don't look back. Something might be gaining on you"

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