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How to let go of your old/past self

After doing a great deal of digging over the past five years or so, I've found countless books and articles on advice you'd give yourself in your childhood, teens years, 20's, etc. I've also found articles on how to plan for your future and how to visualize what you want as well as a sort of "plan of attack" in doing so. But there seem to be little to no resources out there for how to just be in your own skin, presently. I honestly don't have advice for my younger self. I had some good and bad times. And with my ego as a child/teen, I wouldn't have listened anyhow ;) I have some great plans for the future... but my problem has always been in comparing my current self/partner/job/physique/lifestyle to the one I had (nostalgic "had", not actual). I'm always trying to get back to who I am. But that "am" doesn't fit who I honestly AM now. I'd love to hear how others get in touch with reinventing their current self and how to acknowledge, honor and then let go of the old self without it feeling like some kind of a death.


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  • Aug 16 2013: I have learned that I can not let go of my past. It has made me who I am today. Every good and bad experience has shaped and molded me to be the person am I today. All of it is important. Even the icky, yucky, hide it in the closet and don't tell anyone stuff. You can't get rid of it but you don't have to dwell on it.

    One perspective that gave me some insight, which came from a religious standpoint but can be tweaked for those who are not religious, is that "God will never waste a hurt". Because you have had certain experiences, you can speak to someone or help where others can not. Those experiences are gifts which make you who you are and only you can use them to their full potential for good.

    You can't go back and change your past. You wouldn't be who you are today if you did. But, you can embrace it and move on.

    Be who you are and love it.

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