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Love is overrated.

You will never find your true love, there is no perfect relationship. Or is there?
Isn't love overrated? Isn't love just something people simply make up in their minds so they can have something to own? Something to get jealous about? Something to brag about? An excuse for poetry? Let's say love was real, that is was as pure & amazing as people make it out to be. If all of that were true, why do we cheat on the ones we so-called love? Why do we continue to hurt the ones we are 'suppose' to love. Should we just remain single for the rest of our lives? Or should we aim for other types of relationships? For example; open relationships, not monogamous relationships, communes, etc..

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  • Aug 23 2013: A friend and I were once talking about this and he believes that the reason people cheat and marriages fail is because the ones in the relationship tend to settle with who they are going to marry and don't truly 'love' the other. They see all of they're peers starting to settle down and decide its time for them to do the same. They developed this idea that people need to get married during they're 20's or 30's instead of waiting for the perfect 'one'. Or maybe they get impatient and just can't wait any longer to claim they're in 'love'. I feel like everyone has multiple 'soulmates' and only a few are lucky enough to find one of them and enter a relationship. With these soulmates true love exists. It's almost as if a lot of people are 'in love with love' and too quick to rush into a relationship.
    • Aug 23 2013: I don't believe in soulmates. What determines if somebody is really your soulmate or not? In my experience it's a choice that you make. Instead of waiting for somebody perfect for you, become somebody that can love. Put other people's needs above yourself, and look for somebody who'll do the same for you. I did that with my wife, and we got married at 22. Super young, but we both had the commitment to support each other no matter what that is necessary. When you should get married is entirely up to your maturity and your ability to be unselfish about the relationship, be that younger or older. And since people change every day, that time may come sooner or later. Some people never learn how to love, others learn it as teenagers.

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