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Love is overrated.

You will never find your true love, there is no perfect relationship. Or is there?
Isn't love overrated? Isn't love just something people simply make up in their minds so they can have something to own? Something to get jealous about? Something to brag about? An excuse for poetry? Let's say love was real, that is was as pure & amazing as people make it out to be. If all of that were true, why do we cheat on the ones we so-called love? Why do we continue to hurt the ones we are 'suppose' to love. Should we just remain single for the rest of our lives? Or should we aim for other types of relationships? For example; open relationships, not monogamous relationships, communes, etc..

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    Aug 16 2013: Dear Alicia,

    I wonder if we can start by asking ourselves what do we mean by love, not he word but the deed. Because a word without a deed is only a deceptive way of make believe. We all have ideas of love, a love that we were shown by others, and believe that what we are being told is true, and repeat the mistakes of our teachers. I think what we call love is nothing other than shopkeeping: I give you what you need and you give me what I need, and you stop giving, and I take my love for a walk...

    Human beings invented the concept of God longtime ago precisely because they have understood that we are not capable of understanding love, let alone expressing it so we have attributed love to a deity, and are left with the shopkeeping circus. Only God knows love, and one day we too may taste of it, but meanwhile, the circus is amusing,

    Methinks that we need to start a little further back, in order to arrive at love...so we don;t go through the red lights..

    Something precedes Love, and we need to find that first to be able to find our direction. And one may admit to it that Love is preceded by Beauty. Beauty is the garment of love..where there is Beauty, Love is not far..

    But Beauty is the Bait, the Fata Morgana, and many people get caught in it's seductive ways, remaining there trapped, seduced and slaves to it. But Beauty, too, can only be seen by the eyes of the Innocent, as Beauty is not a result of comparison, but an Unique way of perception, where thought and memory is not present, only the awe of the innocence..

    Innocere means harmless, as harm is the result of comparison through the loss of Uniqueness..hence innocence..the pure in the heart....integrity of perception.

    Love is a holistic perceptual field where division ceases, the self and other are One, and our conditioned minds are incapable of understanding it..that is why children suffer terribly around the age of two, when we rob them of their innocence...they ask why, we tel them but they cannot see

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