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Alicia Wilson

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Love is overrated.

You will never find your true love, there is no perfect relationship. Or is there?
Isn't love overrated? Isn't love just something people simply make up in their minds so they can have something to own? Something to get jealous about? Something to brag about? An excuse for poetry? Let's say love was real, that is was as pure & amazing as people make it out to be. If all of that were true, why do we cheat on the ones we so-called love? Why do we continue to hurt the ones we are 'suppose' to love. Should we just remain single for the rest of our lives? Or should we aim for other types of relationships? For example; open relationships, not monogamous relationships, communes, etc..

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  • Aug 13 2013: Hi Alicia,
    First of all, did you happen to see Amy's conversation, which may have some insights on this from a different perspective:
    http://www.ted.com/conversations/19959/what_can_we_teach_our_children.html

    So here is my 2 cents, based on my feelings and experiences with the allmighty concept of love:
    As quite a few folks have already pointed out, love and lust are not the same thing. Being married or fooling around won't change your own definition of what love is, unless you sit down and define it for yourself.

    I experience love for my children that is inexhaustable and unconditional.

    I feel, we are born with the capacity to love, and it is external factors that make us wary. And so we should be! Love, to me, is much to precious to bestow on just anybody.

    When we love deeply, we can get hurt deeply. It is allowing space and helping each other heal through respect, communication and empathy that is true love. If that's not there, neither is the love.

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