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Is happiness internal or external?

Can happiness be influence by your external circumstances or is happiness internal? If happiness is internal, where is it's location? How or can happiness be influenced, externally or is the influence strictly internal?

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    Aug 18 2013: Our happiness is based on a chemical reaction created within the body. However our outlook on any given situation can change ones perception of this reality. Thus creating a positive association with the most unfortunate experiences
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      Aug 22 2013: If you eat a spicy meal and get heartburn, you may be both: unhappy with the heartburn while happy with the meal - negation effect. If you take an antacid to alleviate the heartburn( chemical reaction) you can be both happy the heartburn is gone and happy with the meal. However, it you take too much antacid, you may negate the killing force of the hydrochloric acid in your body, allowing some bad bacteria to make it's way into your lower intestines, causing you to feel bad, inducing a sense of unhappiness.

      What do you mean by an unfortunate experience creating a positive association? What is the experience and how is the experience positive instead of negative?
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        Aug 22 2013: By a unfortunate experience I am referring to a relationship that goes sour. We often have a tendency to believe it’s the end of the world when things turn out for the worst. However the experience could have been necessary for personal growth. So it for those that rely on others people for their happiness. I was recent there and realize that all I did to try to keep someone else happy was a waste of time. Ended up having to walk away from the relationship. In the end, this turn of events forced me to focus on myself to find happiness within myself. Turning a negative into a positive
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          Aug 22 2013: Sounds like your experience was a HUGE lesson Alex. We cannot make someone else happy, and you are wise to walk away from a relationship that depends on that. To try to make someone else happy, or keep them happy depletes our own energy, and depending on another person to "make" us happy is not so good for a relationship. I have been there as well my friend, and to learn that lesson sooner, rather than later in one's life is a gift to yourself, and anyone you will be in relationship with:>)
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          Aug 22 2013: Good luck to you. :)

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