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Do you think more can be done amongst the youth and young people to combat cyber bullying?

We have already touched on ideas we can stop cyber bullying.

It is seen to be rampant amongst the young, but it also affects young adults (workplace bullying). Misuse of the Internet, especially when the use of the internet and social media is almost ubiquitous in today's wired generation is also becoming increasingly common.

We have all seen various cases of cyber bullying leading to suicide e.g Amanda Todd, Hannah Smith

I feel that one of the main causes of bullying is apathy amongst the crowds; we are too afraid to intervene in a bullying case for fear of being targeted ourselves.
It has also become common to set up memorial pages on Facebook after a person has died to spread awareness. However, these pages are often also targeted by other bullies and defaced. While we can spread awareness through Facebook 'likes', it often does not do anything to solve the issue.

Just a shout out, what do you all think can be done to create awareness / mitigate the problem? Government policies, school administration, amongst the youth.. etc.
Examples of things done to combat cyberbullying in your own communities / countries would be helpful too!

cheers :)


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    Aug 22 2013: I think people can take a step back and think about what is going on; Bullies are deliberately trying to hurt people, so by that fact they discredit themselves. That is why I'm a big fan of free speech, because what we say is one of the biggest indicators of how much credibility we have, or in this case do not have.

    The ignorant are proven ignorant by their own words and deeds, I know it is difficult for many people to come to an understanding of what I am saying, but it's not the Dalai Lama who is calling you a loser online, it's a nobody, people like that are insulting themselves more than anyone else because they are proving what a heartless and ignorant person they are.

    The world is full of jerks, you cannot wrap kids up in cottonwool and protect them from that harsh reality for the rest of their lives, they have to develop a thick skin, recognise a fool when they see one, move on and don't let it change the caring nature they have. You don't need affirmation from others, that is a big reason why people are bullies in the first place, they want attention or they are bored, weak, flawed, lonely people that have lost touch with the inner truth, their human value.

    I think that instead of trying to control people we should identify what makes people the way they are and intercept that cause before it makes people become irrational. Fear and desire are the two primary causes of all irrational thoughts and behaviours, in some way linked to every other messed up thing people do, anger, hate, greed, judgementality, obsession, envy, avoidance of duty/liability/responsibility.

    There really should be more awareness on the dangers of not disciplining fear and desire when it is appropriate, but instead we have to work on these mega complicated social structures to contain the chaos of that simple failure.
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      Aug 26 2013: I agree with most of what you write Ray, and to recognize and understand that the bully is telling us a lot about him/herself, may eventually sink in with some bullies?

      We know that bullies are generally less secure and confident in themselves than the victims of bullying, and they are trying consciously or subconsciously to "level" the playing field of life. Putting someone "down" may help them to feel superficially/temporarily superior, stronger, smarter, etc. As you insightfully say...they discredit themselves.

      The only thing I disagree with you on, is the idea that kids don't need affirmation from others. Kids DO need positive affirmation, and although bullying can adversely impact young kids, sometimes if they can get positive affirmations from others around them, they can navigate through the impact of bullying.

      As you say, we need to identify what makes people the way they are, and try to intercept those behaviors which may adversely impact other people.
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        Aug 26 2013: For sure, kids need affirmation because they are not at the philosophical level of development of many mature adults, I agree with you there. Even many adults still feel that need, I'm the type who is more about inner empowerment than depending my happiness externally.

        Obviously I don't mean being affectionate and supportive of family and friends, that's nuts, but a person should be careful not to become what they call "needy" that is of course depending on maturity and such. But it's one thing between those in a caring relationship but different with a jerk at school or a stranger on the internet.

        Wisdom begins with compassion and uses logic in that spirit to develop, but both are important and compliment each other, what is one without the other?
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        Aug 26 2013: It sounds a lot like me ? :)))) I'm the Mr. Troll, I think.
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        Aug 26 2013: Yup, we have students who seek to grow and then we have the ignorant who only seek others to agree with them ;)

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