TED Conversations

Amy Winn


This conversation is closed.

What can we teach our children about marriage, using advice from our successes as well as our failures, to teach them how to be a good mate?

Why is it that with each passing generation of marriages, there is an increasing likelihood of failure? Why is it that our grand-parents and great grand-parents went through wars and the great depression, and stuck together? They had no cable, no interenet….so perhaps it is because they actually spoke to each other. In this “me” world, it seems that newlyweds don’t have patience, understanding, empathy and tolerance. These things are the necessary foundation of a good and long lasting marriage. Where have they gone? So my question to everyone, is how can we change this? What can we teach the next generation from our own experiences, good and bad, that may improve their chances of maintaining a long term happy marriage?


Showing single comment thread. View the full conversation.

  • thumb
    Aug 15 2013: .

    Just "teach" our children the instincts in their DNA:

    5. Sexual Love (Primary Symbiosis)
    Sexual love is an essential component of the second period of primary symbiosis in a person’s life.
    6. Marriage (Primary Symbiosis)
    Marriage is one of the most important parts of human primary symbiosis.
    A. Origin
    Marriage was originated after biological evolution progressed from asexual propagation to sexual one. It is so because the sexual propagation can cope with all kinds of difficulties much easier than the asexual one.
    a. Husband
    The husband half is biologically assigned in charge of food-seeking, habitat constructing, defending, donating all kinds of co-body-safety messages ceaselessly to his wife (kissing, embracing, and so on) .
    His ability and smartness come mainly from the ceaseless intimate encouragement of the other half of the marriage ---- the wife.
    b. Wife
    The wife is biologically assigned in charge of the child bearing, child bring up, house hold, and etc.
    She transfers all the physical substantial materials from her own body into the baby’s. Also, she exhausts all her spiritual energy to bring up the baby or child ---- the DNA-carrier of both the husband and wife.
    That is where her mother-greatness and beauty come from.
    Her beauty and virtue are support-enhanced by the ceaseless intimate co-body message from the other half of the marriage ---- the husband.
    This is the right way that the husband and wife of a marriage work; and the right way that happy life of the couple comes from.
    Then, there will be no issue of gender equality at all.
    • thumb
      Aug 15 2013: Dear W. Ying, I notice that it says 10,000 years ago norm next to your name. Then I read you comment. Is this meant to be funny? If so, I get it.

      Oh no, I just read your comments of other issues and I see that there is no joke here. So, I will try to address what you said. Here and now, in this day and age, men are sometimes out of work. During these trying times the woman may step in and do extra to make things in the home function and provide for the family. Should the wife need special attention or have new baby and just need a nap, Dad can take over and be a hero. These are the kind of things that make a marriage work in this century, which is when my son will be getting married. So while men needed to hunt and gather for their dinner (and I imagine that was very hard work) many years ago, times have changed and we as humans and as couples are basically forced to change with them. Expecting that all things "provided" will come from man, is just not going to cut it for the average couple today.

Showing single comment thread. View the full conversation.