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Jorge Contreras

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What would be the family structure of the future?

People are in constant movement, nowadays is many examples of married couples living and working around the Globe both coming from opposite sides of the World, having very little time to spare for their family, will economics and logistics will influence on the future structure of the family?


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  • Aug 1 2013: Yes.

    People are sacrificing family life for lifestyle.

    You see the results in the divorce rate, juvenile delinquency courts, and substance abuse programs.

    Long term, people will stop wanting to have children and live hedonistic life styles dedicated to themselves.

    This mentality takes exactly one generation to be removed form the gene pool.

    we are looking for instant satisfaction, quick solutions to problems, early retirements, and letting our investments work so we don't have to work. We are losing the work ethic, patients, grit and integrity required to successfully raise children. We are looking to education facilities, day care facilities and grandparents to raise OUR children.

    We are becoming less proactive about solving our own problems and more ready to be a victim some way shape or form to extort money or sympathy from those around us. We are immediately looking to blame our kids, teachers or the education system when our kids do not excel in some subject. We are adverse to being held accountable for our actions and try and get away with as much as possible or win at any cost. We seem to worship consumption of alcohol, sexual innuendos and gigiloish behavior. We buy our way out of problems that should be solved by being held accountable or never become problems in the first place by demonstrating strength and control of character and emotions.We seem to be willing to forgive our athletes, politicians, and sports heroes for acting like criminals, but throw the book at people committing crimes while trying to survive and never forgive those trying to recover from bad decisions leading to confinement. These lessons are being learned by our children as they watch our actions.

    Most adults know right from wrong, they just need to choose to live a life that serves as an example for their children.This takes work, sacrifice, and strength of character. Adults need to be willing to do these things to hold the family together.
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      Aug 4 2013: Robert if you could shape a model how will it be?
      • Aug 4 2013: I do not think the ideal model of family structure of the future will change substantially from the current model, or the model of past generations. This model will be a pair of parents that love each other and their children unconditionally, extended family that supports the marriage and the children it produces. However, with longer life expectancy and more difficult job environments, the number of grandparents living in homes will increase and the amount of time spent by children leaving the home to go out on their own will also increase.

        What do I think are the roles in the ideal model? Both parents first do what is necessary for the family to survive, including what is needed to make the marriage survive. Parents need to decide what is the best combination of time spent earning a living vs time spent raising children. In this discussion, the value of quality time spent with children as they learn and grow needs to take precedence over growing family wealth during these formative years. In the event a family can not survive on one income, then options involving child care or assistance from other extended family members might be considered.

        I think family models tend to be influenced by many external influences and they need to be strong to be able to handle the peaks and valleys of life. The stress of living on the edge of your credit limit, having two chaotic schedules involving work hours and travel, and trying to balance daycare, healthcare and economic turmoil is a survival challenge to the basic family units. The trade-off associated with having two parents working to improve lifestyle while sacrificing child care and adding stress to the family is a subtle threat to the survival of marriages. This needs to be considered carefully in plans made by parents for the survival of the family.
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          Aug 5 2013: Thanks Robert, I m glad you are taking part of this conversation, when I look around I see many friends asking them selfs what is the best way to form a family?
          some of them say "I have sacrifice my future in order to have a "family" both male or female have this dilema of wasted time and their youth,, It feels many people have experience separation after 8 or 10 years of marriage and they feel lost when "family" is not longer present.
          I also see many singles traveling, working, and just going trough life with empty hearts..
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        Aug 5 2013: .Thanks!

        I would "shape a model"
        close to the 10,000 years ago norm
        in our DNA.

        Such as:

        a. Husband
        The husband half is biologically assigned in charge of food-seeking, habitat constructing, defending, donating all kinds of co-body-safety messages ceaselessly to his wife (kissing, embracing, and so on) .
        His ability and smartness come mainly from the ceaseless intimate encouragement of the other half of the marriage ---- the wife.
        b. Wife
        The wife is biologically assigned in charge of the child bearing, child bring up, house hold, and etc.
        She transfers all the physical substantial materials from her own body into the baby’s. Also, she exhausts all her spiritual energy to bring up the baby or child ---- the DNA-carrier of both the husband and wife.
        That is where her mother-greatness and beauty come from.
        Her beauty and virtue are support-enhanced by the ceaseless intimate co-body message from the other half of the marriage ---- the husband.
        This is the right way that the husband and wife of a marriage work; and the right way that happy life of the couple comes from.
        Then, there will be no issue of gender equality at all.

        (Be Happy Validly! p 19).
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          Aug 5 2013: What has made this model change over the times? if it all ready existed what happend on the way?

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