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Why do we embrace mediocrity in relationships? Because we are either so perfection bound or sex is the only value of relationships.

We face obstacles all day long, whether it is the traffic jam on the highway, people at work, delayed and much needed info, our friends, kids etc. We work through these obstacles and can often feel invigorated by championing the challenge. Then why do we pooch out so easily when it comes to relationship obstacles? Why do we give up so easily and why are we not as a result concerned with the idea that about 50% of all marriages won't make 25 years. Why is the work of relationships seemingly so low on the priority list?

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    Jul 28 2013: quality seems to have to do with communication. So if you're asking good questions and making interesting comments, and you're getting some of that back, your relationship should be good quality. Just like one hopes we have a good relationship as we conduct these TED conversations.
    • Jul 28 2013: I agree that good communication is very important as long as it involves both the intelligence of mind just as much as it involves the intelligence of heart. In my opinion wisdom is a path between head and heart. I need my mind to temper my heart just as much as I need my heart to temper my mind.Intellectual relationships I think can never be as deep as mind and heart relationships.
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        Jul 28 2013: Mark,
        When I speak of "good" communication, it involves the intelligence of the mind, heart and all aspects of the human condition.

        As thinking, feeling human beings, we are multi dimensional, and if we "know" ourselves, we can contribute various aspects of our "self" to any relationship....in my humble perception and experience, there are choices:>)

        One key, is to be honest first with ourselves, because we cannot share something with others that we do not have in our "self".
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        Jul 28 2013: well, intellectual relationships can certainly involve both the mind and heart. By heart you may mean more the emotions, and intellectual relationships certainly involve the emotions, both talking about emotions, and the emotions one feels as one discusses ideas.
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      Jul 28 2013: Excellent point Greg! I agree that quality relationships have a lot to do with communication, and quality of relationship, with good communication can be everywhere....including TED conversations:>)
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        Jul 28 2013: right, colleen, do you sometimes find yourself talking with the people around you in your daily life about the things you talk about on TED conversations?
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          Jul 28 2013: I LOVE discussing things Greg, and I am lucky to have very diverse friends, family and acquaintances who are interested in all kinds of topics. So, yes, at times, TED conversations and topics are brought into other conversations. It all depends on the topic of conversation at any given time, and whether or not information is relevant to the conversation.

          Also, I have introduced quite a few people to TED, so some of my friends are aware of the TED conversations, just as some of my TED friends are aware of other things that are happening in my life.....it's all interconnected.....don't you think?
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        Jul 28 2013: for me life feels interconnected, yes, it seems like you could think of any two things, say, carrot, and nose, and if you think you may start to discover interconnections between them.
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          Jul 28 2013: That is an easy connection to make Greg! Up here in the north country, kids use carrots for the nose of snowmen all the time! :>)
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        Jul 28 2013: well, george, I wouldn't mind getting a little bit of fame off these TED conversations, so I guess I use my real name. I hope no situation will become hostile, I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

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