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Parenting gifted children, from toddlers to teens

As a parent of a gifted child, my child has had many teachers, good and bad.

But raising a strong, resilient gifted child needs more than that. A child needs a stimulating, supportive environment to grow, learn, develop and eventually, lead. Yes, all children need this, but I think ours, with the capacity to be future leaders of the next generation, need it even more.

And as parents - we need to learn and share with each other. I


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    If there is Gifted, there is Non-Gifted. You must examine this issue more deeply. It is not what you perceive. Question your beliefs. Doubt is the other side of Faith. As equally powerful. As equally transformative.
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      Aug 17 2013: There are certain children that are very different from the norm.......the true "gifted" child......at least the one identified as such by the school system, needs to be pulled out of the regular classroom and given special attention.

      He is not satisfied with the kind of education given in the regular classroom......he is an explorer, investigator, instigator, has unquenchable thirst for knowledge.....deep deep knowledge of subjects.
      He or she is endlessly asking questions that absorb the teacher's time.......and in her quest to deal with him, the teacher must ignore the rest of the class.

      I am not sure I can do justice to the definition of a truly gifted child.

      Their curriculum is usually very challenging......and the way they are taught in their pull-out program is very different from the regular class..........again, because they need a special kind of learning environment.

      In all my years of teaching, I have had only one such student.
      It was such a relief when he was taken to his 'gifted' class on Friday.......he wore me down.......it's like he needed a teacher all to himself.
      The other children just could not relate to him.......back then we did not use the term autistic...but looking back, perhaps he had some form of autism......and also attention deficit disorder......but boy, was he a wiz kid............Herman.........that was his name........I'll never forget him.

      Today, at least here in my state, the gifted program is just a program that pulls out the smarties from their regular class and makes them feel more important than the rest.......usually the kids that stay feel like they are not 'good enough'...........this way of implementing gifted, in my opinion, leaves much to be desired.

      True gifted children could very well attend a special school, or have special classes.

      Kids who pull all A's, are just smart.....not necessarily gifted......in the way this word was used originally in schools.

      And yes.....all humans are gifted...kids included :)
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        Aug 17 2013: I agree Mary that the child labeled "gifted" may be an explorer, investigator, instigator, has an unquenchable thirst for knowledge, etc.

        I do not agree that this child's questions absorb the teacher's time so the teacher must ignore the rest of the class. In my son's 4th grade, a very special "gifted" teacher learned about how to deal with my son and other "gifted" children in her classroom, and it was a win/win situation for everyone.

        I do not agree that a child labeled "gifted" needs a teacher all to themselves. They need to learn that there are many kids/adults like them, and it is interesting to learn to interact with all people.

        Mary, you are saying that "gifted" children have autism??? How is that helpful? You also label him with attention deficit disorder??? When will you stop trying to diagnose in this on line forum???

        When the "smarties", as you refer to them, are pulled out of their regular class and made to feel "more important than the rest", as you say, how does that impact the rest of their lives? And how does that impact their peers? Eventually, they have to deal with the real world, which does not necessarily reward those who have some kind of label. I agree with you....this way of implementing "gifted", leaves much to be desired.

        True "gifted" children, which most children are naturally, need to learn to get along in the real world.

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