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We need to learn respect

I dislike it when I hear comments like THAT IS A DUMB question! Are we so arrogant that we think we are soooooooooooo superior to other people?
I need to remind these superior people that we all have strong points and weak points!
My mum always told me ask questions!!!

How many of us have witnessed people who have not asked dumb questions for fear of embarrassing themselves?
Golly I have asked many dumb questions, but then I have not made many STUPID mistakes )))

We do not have to agree with others, BUT this is our opportunity to ask why. and either teach or learn.

No matter what our judgement of people we owe everyone the respect of listening to them!
If we choose to not listen then one day we will miss a real gem!

EVEN the least gifted people will come up with a real winner, but if we are so ignorant and arrogant that we choose to not waste our PRECIOUS time listening and helping then WE ARE THE LOOSER... AND we miss out on the nice feeling we get when we help others. I could carry on here by bragging about all my numbers, BUT things like that IMPRESS nobody....
When we GIVE our time to help others we are the real winners... not the people we have helped! Sooooooooooooo PLEASE refrain from negative attitudes............. BE GRATEFUL that you are able to help. IF you can't think of anything nice to say... SAY NOTHING!
I love for people to prove me wrong... that means I have learned something, and that is very good)
To quote JFK think not what is in it for me, but what can I do to help).. OK it is your turn now)))

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well personally I do no label questions dumb... I used this expression to express the perception of many people... I totally agree with you..if you read between the lines you will realize that is what I was saying... maybe people need to remember that when we belittle others we are actually putting ourselves down ))) THERE ARE NO DUMB QUESTIONS... THERE ARE ONLY DUMB REACTIONS BY PEOPLE WHO RESPOND BY SAYING "THAT IS A DUMB QUESTION"
One of my favourite people in history Eleanore Roosevelt always said "if you cannot think of anything nice to say, say nothing" ))) I think it the duty of those who show more wisdom to respond to these people who delight in rubbishing others by saying that is unfair, and ask why do you say that?
Asking questions is how we clarify in our minds what the truth or intent of information we have been presented with. Asking questions is the ultimate way we can learn))) If others have a problem with our question then it is their problem not our problem....

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    Jul 24 2013: Every thought is neutral,

    we attach meanings to it according to our own out look and experience.

    The least evolved and least learned person will find some ideas dumbest.

    The most evolved person knows this fact that nothing is greatest or dumbest, every thought is neutral and we attach meanings to it.

    Actually every thing in this world is neutral. To a sage or an animal there is not much difference between gold nugget and stone.
  • Jul 23 2013: Couldn't agree more, Rod.
    I have two young children, and to me, respect is the most important trait I need to teach them. And the beauty if respect is, when it is given, it should be received.
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    Aug 23 2013: Hi Rod....nice hat!

    My mum always encouraged asking questions too, and that is how we get information and learn about other people. In my humble perception, there are no "dumb" questions. To me, questions are neutral, and a way to get information.

    You write..."Golly I have asked many dumb questions, but then I have not made many STUPID mistakes )))"

    Here is a question, and I sincerely hope you do not label it dumb because I'm trying to learn about you. Why do you label your questions dumb?
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    Aug 23 2013: YESSSSSSSSSSSSS as I said we do not have to agree... BUT we should always listen, AND if per chance we are proved wrong then that is good because it means we have learned something.) or maybe we changed our beliefs/understanding slightly which also means we have learned from previously overlooked facts/information. It is not important if we have been embarrassed by our errors. What is important is that people have felt valued because someone listened to them... I taught students that other teachers could not handle, and I found just by listening to them they listened to me, and the end result was parents came to me thanking me for changing their sons and daughters. We need to open our minds and our hearts. Love is the most powerful tool we have!!! At the end of all this we need to learn how to love, and teach how to love. Respect and love are very similar. We cannot teach when we insist on being correct.. when we are insistent on being correct the people we are trying to help turn off. If we convince them it is their idea it becomes a good idea, and everyone wins)))
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    Aug 23 2013: .
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    Yes!
    "We need to learn respect"
    because "respect" means SYMBIOSIS.

    Symbiosis makes us survive.
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    Jul 26 2013: We do need respect definitely. I have moved to many different countries due to my dads job so I can tell you that one thing we lack in America is respect. I have been brought up in a very different way than most of my friends here and I respect plays a very important role in my family. Iranians in general tend to respect eachother more than other western coultures do and thats just in our culture. I just cant believe it when I see how some people here treat the elderly.
  • Jul 24 2013: I agree about listening. There is a proverb, listen to fools, even they have part of the truth.

    I would argue respect entail more than just listening and I agree with Lizanne - respect like trust must be given and returned for it to continue.
  • Jul 24 2013: There is no such thing as a stupid question, as long as you are able to get a correct answer.
    Asking questions is a good thing, but care needs to be taken to ensure you ask the right person/people the right question.

    As far as respect goes, people are going to have different views as to what is respectful behaviour. I have in the past been accused of showing disrespect, when i know that was not my intention.