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Morgan Rich

Life Coach, My Family

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How can we help kids and teenagers develop the deep belief in self they need to feel worthy, to be motivated, to feel confident?

The concept of those who feel a sense of love and belonging are those who FEEL WORTHY of love and belonging is awesome. In the same way, teenagers saying they want to live their passion, know who they are, and live the life they were born to live, is a great idea.

The challenge is that these things are easy to say, but hard to do. I'm curious how we help our young people gain the strength and capability to actually feel worthy, discover their Real You, feel confident, and know who they are.

Yes, Grit is important. How do we learn it? I'm interested in answers beyond, you just commit to it, or just do it, or try it out. Sure, but not the shy kid who lacks confidence or the bully who is insecure beneath the bravado or the lonely kid who feels alone and broken.

If these things were easy, we'd be doing them, but we struggle. How can we help our young people feel worthy, be gritty, see the good and positive things?


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    Jul 23 2013: Good question Morgan! 1st you have to want to take on the responsibility of parenting. They are and should be a part of your heart forever. second, pay close attention to your marriage for a successful marriage, a strong partnership is one of the greatest examples you will give your child for a host of reasons. next, be sure both parents establish clear and consistent guidelines and when they question them both parents come to the table to discuss. One important lesson to learn is respect, they respect you as their parent in actions and words. In turn if you show respect again, in actions and words. pay close attention as to when you should begin to let go gradually, let them start managing their life.they'll make mistakes we all do and have. it's how we learn. when appropriate, admit to a mistake as a parent you may have made. they don't come with a set of directions and each child is different. here 's one never ever say "I told you so" to anything. you take away from their life experience try a congratulations you give them back their ownership.
    The family is where it all begins and should remain a safe and loving foundation from which much learning takes place for all members
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      Jul 23 2013: As I was reading your post here, the thing that jumped into my head was respecting yourself. As a parent and partner, you're going to be pushed and made to face the hard stuff.

      If you are compromised in your heart, your intention, your commitment - to yourself & then to others, it's going to be hard to respect yourself. If you can't respect yourself - Know Yourself and Trust Yourself - there is no chance that your kids and family will respect you.

      I hope to provide this level of self confidence and awareness in the teens that I coach.
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        Jul 23 2013: you can not know what the concept of respect is unless you see it modeled and practice it. in a marriage, a couple must begin any an all incidences when; "you're going to be pushed and made to face the hard stuff" coming from the foundation of mutual respect. and ya, there are times the best you can do is to agree to disagree. there were times anger reared it's head but never, ever were derogatory words slamming one's character used. all that is an angry ego talking.

        you are so correct that this 21st technology enabling communication to take place via a machine is slowly killing the art of conversation which is a huge part of relationship building. my 3 daughters did not receive cell phones until their junior year in high school, computer time was limited, no video games in the house. when appropriate they were included in conversations sharing thoughts and ideas. I do have to share Morgan that my husband and I started our marriage and family older than most. this gave us an advantage for years teach you much if your are listening!
        thanks for the comment and I am confident when I share that the teens in your life are very fortunate young adults to have you as a mentor, a role model!! BRAVO Morgan.
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          Jul 24 2013: Thank you Mary Ellen. I feel very lucky to do the work that I do. I love it.
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      Jul 23 2013: Another thing. The whole being connected to people via technology is creating a real crisis of what relationships look like.

      I've had lots of teens say to me "I'll talk to them" which means "I'll text them". I now say, go, make eye contact with them and share your thoughts.

      And they get it. Lots of teenagers are worried and scared that they aren't learning how to be in relationships. It's like they get that they can't fall in love with someone via a text message, but don't know what else to do.

      And sadly, there are lots of adults modeling that technology is the way to communicate.

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