James Zhang

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I've been moving too fast.

Hey guys, if there's one thing I learned today, it's that I was impatient. I was brain-vomiting ideas out of nowhere and it was a new experience. I didn't know how to handle it until I met a great person at IBM here. When I get impatient, I get impulsive, and that's when I start to contradict myself. There's a fine line between self-confidence and arrogance, and today, I crossed that threshold to the arrogance part. When I get arrogant, I stop listening and I disconnect to those around me.

What she taught me was that patience WAS efficiency and it is ABSOLUTELY necessary for communication to work too.

So for now, I need to just take some time to just shut up and and take a calm down for a bit. If you guys got any pointers to calm down, that'd be great! I naturally feel compulsive and excited, but I need to first show people I can tame this beast of mine and work WITH others, not AGAINST others.

Anyways, thought everyone should know this. What helped me connect back to others was when someone started to listen and smack some sense back into you to reality.

Closing Statement from James Zhang

@Greg

You're exactly right! Most people think waiting is boring. So how do we make it not boring when waiting at the DMV for 50 hours?

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    Jul 18 2013: Since you asked... You wrote this: "So for now, I need to just take some time to just shut up and and take a calm down for a bit...I naturally feel compulsive and excited, but I need to first show people I can tame this beast of mine and work WITH others, not AGAINST others."

    You might read your own words to yourself a few times slowly. Listen to yourself but don't believe everything you tell yourself in your impatient impulsive state. It is not a state particularly conducive to wisdom, I think.

    What this reminds me of is people who think they are doing brilliant creative work while they are high but then once they are back down they are less impressed with that product. Or so they frequently report.

    If you are drinking lots of caffeine or ingesting anything weird or in excess, set limits for yourself. Also, particularly as you are in a wonderful new job, try not to alienate people there with what they may perceive as arrogance.

    For example, I would not share with people there that you expect to be CEO in six months.
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      Jul 18 2013: I could not agree more. I love your satire.
      Seriously, the CEO part seems more suitable for a Facebook status or tweet rather than a TED conversation headline.
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      Jul 18 2013: "I would not share with people there that you expect to be CEO in six months."

      Yeah... about that... I was going through a phase because I gained confidence. But overconfidence can make you sound crazy and maybe do crazy things. Overconfidence is balanced by control.
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        Jul 18 2013: Actually, James, if you participate here under your real name, you should pay some attention to material of that nature you post online.
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          Jul 18 2013: Dude, some of the stuff that comes out of my mind is pretty badass lol
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    Jul 18 2013: Dear Sweet James,
    With your participation on TED for quite awhile, I have observed you being less patient and writing long, sometimes confusing comments, and I have observed you more often, listening, fully engaged and producing shorter clearer comments.

    More words does not always mean more clarity. It seems to be a common behavior for people who are presenting an arrogant demeanor, to stop listening and disconnect from those with whom they are interacting. Generally, those who present an arrogant persona, seem to connect best with those who support their arrogance:>)

    I agree that patience, clarity, listening, and a genuine desire to connect is more efficient AND a LOT more fun and interesting. I appreciate you and your insight my friend:>)
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      Jul 18 2013: Thanks Colleen! You remind of someone... lol
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    Jul 18 2013: talking about shutting up ... a wasted opportunity
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      Jul 18 2013: Are you having fun on Ted?

      There's gotta be something about it that makes you come on here.

      Maybe it's because you like talking to others about a certain subject you like. Fun, eh?
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    Jul 18 2013: well, there is another side to it, sometimes you can use your impatience as a way to get things done.

    by the way, did you want more time on this, you can click "edit" and add more time.