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Preventing those that would be bad parents from becoming parents

Take a survey of our thousand most successful people about the parenting they received as children; then compare those experiences with the parenting received from our thousand worst criminals. The successful people will tell stories mostly of decent to great parenting, while the criminals will be telling stories about abandonment, abuse and neglect. Also, all those stories we read about people that were about to overcome the obstacles of poverty to go on to do great thing, they all had some good parenting in their past. Society’s worst problem is bad parenting.

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    Jul 15 2013: Who would be the judge of who might be the good parent, and who might be the not so good parent?
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      Jul 15 2013: Your posing this obvious question, Colleen, reminded me of the several members of the TED community who might not be alive had this policy been in force. It also reminded me of the stories many here have told of abusers whose public face would never have suggested what they were doing at home.

      Millions upon millions of fine people have overcome questionable parenting to live good lives and contribute to the larger community. They may not share their stories in public, so people do not know.

      This CDC study reports that about 60% of Americans indicate that they had troubled childhoods. 20% , for example, indicate they had a depressive parent. http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/yourlife/parenting-family/2010-12-17-adult-majority-troubled-childhood_N.htm
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        Jul 15 2013: If we had listened to the experts that were warning us about overpopulation in the sixties, and now we were approaching four billion instead of eight billion people, Global Warming would be a distant blip on our radar, the Gulf spill would not have happened and the term Anthropocene would not have been coined. Other than there are just too many people, so what if one person out of a thousand from crappy parents makes it, what about those other 999 that end up in our prison and fill our welfare rolls and live lives of anguish? Also, people that make it from bad parenting don’t do it because of the bad parenting but despite it, and just think how much more these people would have achieved if only they had quality parenting in their lives! Being a parent is the greatest responsibility one can have in their lives, but we allow the most irresponsible among to have the greatest number of children; your average American has a fertility rate of 2.1 children while your average American felon has a fertility rate of 2.6 children. Just because what did in the past was wrong does not mean we should continue doing it that way.
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          Jul 15 2013: Yes, people can undoubtedly benefit from better parenting, but these particular people born into troubled families would not have been born to different sets of parents. The researchers in the CDC study drew the conclusion that various forms of support to improve children's living situations and to assist parents to be better parents are productive pathways to pursue.
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        Jul 16 2013: Fritzie and Nelson,
        You both make some very good points! We certainly would like to see happier, healthier children, and I agree that education could help.

        That being said, I still wonder about who would choose, and enforce the idea of "Preventing those that would be bad parents from becoming parents".

        Nelson, you write..."They pick themselves by commiting felonies that victomize children." Are you suggesting that everyone who commits a felony, not be allowed to have children? Again, I ask...who would monitor that, and how would it be enforced?
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          Jul 17 2013: No, felonies that victomize children. Bank fraud, no. child molestation, yes.
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      Jul 15 2013: They pick themselves by commiting felonies that victomize children.

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