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Valerie Esmeralda

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Is growing up (mentally) too fast a good thing or a bad thing?

Just a quick background: I'm 16 years old, I have an elder sister and we're 10 years apart. I spend a lot of (or probably too much) time hanging out with much older people (mentors, older siblings, etc), and I enjoy being around them. And somehow, I enjoy it when they share their issues to me. (Work, money, etc)
I didn't realize about this, until I tried to talk to a friend of the same age about an issue I'm concerned about, and the only thing she said was, "Really? You worry about those kinds of stuff?"
Day by day, the more I realize that I don't enjoy hanging out with friends of the same age group that much. My friends are all wondering how come I know a lot about the current issues, especially politics, and I told them I watch a lot of news on TV and read the paper, and they said, "Really? You can stand that?"
An older friend told me that I really should keep hanging out with friends of the same age group as well, just to "keep me in the ballpark".

I like being a few pages ahead of my friends, but do you think it's a good thing or a bad thing? I appreciate your opinions. Thanks a lot!

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    Jul 18 2013: It can be both, all depends on YOUR perspective.

    For me, hanging out with your seniors is no big deal. In fact, these seniors do a whole lot to help you become more mature. To me, 16 is an appropriate age to start thinking about global issues, because you will have to go to university or college soon. In my school, which is a British international school, students from 14 years old can choose to study Business, Economics and History. And all these subjects really get them involved in a lot of these so-called adults' problems.

    Personally, I believe that the most important thing you need to remember is that being mature, which you are now, is good but don't lose the young side of yourself. Believe it or not, kids and teenagers have precious treasures that the grown-ups have lost. You have healthy, imagination, creativity, curiosity, quest for learning, ambition and not being afraid to explore and discover. And as you might have realised, Einstein is a great scientist yet he still has a mind of a child.

    I hope this help (:
    • Jul 19 2013: Hi Son,
      I agree with you. A lot of my older friends have been helping me a lot with my problems, and listening to their advice and stories has always been a comfort. And yes, I as a teenager have precious treasures to be cherished before I grow older.

      You sure helped a lot! Thank you :)

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