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Mary Vidaurri

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How do you balance living practically, with reaching for your dreams? How much does material gain matter, realistically?

As a teenager, there aren't many people within my age group willing to discuss life’s dilemmas outside of drama unfolding on FB, resulting in mental asphyxiation.
I've got my whole, too brief life, stretched out before me, and the sheer stunningness of my own mortality leads me to question the path my life will lead, and the "real" world impact of my decisions.
I want life and every word to the extent that it's absurd. I want to take every opportunity to travel, and fully experience life, even if it means I don't have much in material wealth. I don't mind hardship, I've lived with it. As long as I have enough for food and healthcare I'm fine. (This plan definitely includes college:)
Yet my family and culture pushes me in the direction of "traditional success" which consists of a job paying big bucks, a shiny new car, big house, two kids, and a dog. The American Dream, for a latina in a migrant family. This is seen as climbing up the ladder, it's a practical, comfortable lifestyle. A wise choice many would say and well within my grasp.
So I guess, after all that backstory, I want to hear what really matters once you've well advanced through life? Do you wish you'd taken the leap, or treasure the security of your life?
I don't know, I'm only 16, so I'd love to hear any advice, or common regrets.
and I hope this doesn't sound like typical teen angst, straight out of Catcher in the Rye:)


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    Jul 23 2013: As another teenager, I understand your situation where you are bombarded with people asking what you want to do when you grow up and people going down the traditional path of university and then high paying job then set for life.

    When people ask me what I want to do when I grow up, I just reply with "i want to do something that makes me happy no matter if it's a job or a hobby". Might be hard to convince the family because all they want is the best life you can have, but in some cases you just have to trust your gut and hope it lead you down the right path in the end.

    So im just another person in your shoes that might be heading in the direction of the leap, I know there will be some hardships, but that's just another part of the journey.

    Good luck!! Hope this helped :)

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