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Women will soon be in charge

In 2009, statistical data shows that there were more females than males in the US. In 2012, more females were attending college and graduating than males. Divorce rate in US has remained constant at 50% and the overall birth rate is declining among Caucasians, it is increasing among Hispanics and Blacks and Asians. More females are entering the workplace than males according to the latest demographics from the US Census.

While there might be a general consensus among married males that they control all aspects of the family, it is oftentimes the opposite with the female controlling the budget and all purchases and decisions that the family makes which was just the opposite in my parent's generation.

Only women can give birth which seems a little too simplistic but artificial insemination techniques can be used to control whether or not the baby is male or female. And, while we are not at that stage in our development yet, there is a possibility that it could one day be the norm.

Throughout my 40 year career, I have worked for both female as well as male bosses, and I much prefer working for females. Why? Females do not take their position for granted. Females do not cut corners but are very thorough in all that they do. Females manage their time better because in addition to working they also must manage a household, whereas males tend to play golf and drink and watch TV after their workday is done.

There are also exceptions to my comments and right now there are more males in controlling positions than females, but the tide is slowing changing and soon the reverse will be true. This is especially true by the fact that more females are graduating from college than males...

Males will continue to have a dominate place in sports, movies, music, and the military where a college degree is oftentimes not required. But, in the business world, our lives are about to be fundamentally changed.

So, here's my question: Is this good or bad or are you neutral?

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    Jul 9 2013: I agree that Men need to change but I think the problem stems much further than the workforce. In fact if you were to look at the Jackson Katz's TED talk you will see that men need to refresh how they think and act in many different ways.

    We need to start holding each other accountable when we drop the ball in all area's of our lives rather than turning away and slapping backs and giving each other one more shot. We are escape artists at heart and these time call for a shift where we learn to be team players not only with one another but with the women in our lives as well.
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        Jul 9 2013: With all due respect, I was in no way saying that each family, man or woman, must meet some scripted cookie cutter framework, established in a debate held on a TED forum, and prescribed by me or anyone else in the group.

        I can appreciate old world values, however times as they are including the economy, current cohort social perspectives, and future prospects I am suggesting that times are changing. That because of those factors there is a shift coming in social, economic, and demographics that without change we perhaps will fall short of keeping up and ultimately harm the women we care about. Without sharing the burdens that daily life now demands from us we are only going to shorten the lives of our mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters.

        There is no reason old world values can't exist while still sharing the burden.
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        Jul 9 2013: TED FRIEND, I appreciate the thoughtful posts you have made in your short time here. Could I recommend here that when you write that there are lots of empirical data on the positive and negative effects of something, you might also include a couple of links to sources?
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        Jul 9 2013: Thank you for including a sample of your references.
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        Jul 9 2013: I did not read the whole study. What I read suggested that women are unhappy with marriages that are less equal than they would prefer and that women who prefer egalitarian sorts of marriages often find their husbands less emotionally invested in the marriage, in part because the husbands are not as egalitarian-minded as the women.

        I also read that, unsurprisingly, those who believe in committed marriages are happier with them than those who don't and the possibility that expecting less emotional work from the husband makes for a happier marriage.

        There is a hypothesis articulated but not specifically tested that men and women may have tacit preferences for traditional gender roles that then make them happier in what the author calls a combination of old and new rather than entirely gender role-free family arrangements.

        The bottom line, then, is that egalitarian, gender-role free marriages don't make people happy if the man in particular isn't into it.
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          Jul 10 2013: TED Friend,

          I agree that couples need to find there own balance and certainly wouldn't suggest that what works in my marriage would work in yours or any one else's.

          I am however suggesting that women shoulder a lot more than men do and the expectation is that they should. I am speaking in broad terms and painting with a broad stroke however, it seems to me that women are expected to keep the home in order, take care of the kids, help provide financially, be care givers to elderly family members, and all while taking care of themselves. Seem like a lot to me especially when the traditional role for men was to be the bread winner.

          During and after the Women's movement the expectations of women have only increased and a lot of it they brought onto themselves in order to prove something. I do think that things have shifted though and a great example of why women can't have it all was written by Anne Marie Slaughter.

          http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/

          Her husband was supportive and yet there was still an imbalance in her life why should we force that same imbalance on other women?
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        Jul 9 2013: TED FRIEND, of course one cannot reasonably push gender roles in marriage onto others. Couples need to work out what their preferences are in this regard- preferably before permanent commitment! It is one dimension of compatibility.

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