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Gay Marriage Rights

Obviously this is an extremely significant issue that has become a daily topic in many households. I am pretty young, starting high school next fall, and I have always been curious to listen to people's opinions on the topic of Gay Marriage, because it is an important part of my life.

I am a triplet, with a sister and a brother, and I suppose one could say I have a unique lifestyle. My siblings and I have been raised in two households our entire lives, the reason being that we have four parents. All of them are gay, meaning my mom's live together, and my dad's live together.

Both of my biological parents are in law enforcement, while my other dad and mom are stay-at-home parents. My mom's have been together for 20 years, and my dad's have been together for 19. We live in California, but my parents live 100 miles apart, with one house being located by the beach, and the other in the countryside. My dad's raise all kinds of animals, and they always teach us important values, along with my mom's as well.

My mom's got married a few years back, when gay marriage was okay in California for that short period of time. My dad's have not gotten married, but with the new laws, they are engaged now and hope to be married as soon as possible.

One of my dads is from Mexico, and he has been here for about 25 years. He is not a citizen, and now that he can get married to the person he loves, he will finally be recognized in the country he loves. My parents have always taught me to accept everyone, and I find it easy to get along with many different varieties of people.

I am starting this debate mainly because I am aware of the religious standpoints, and want to hear more about others outlooks and perspectives on gay marriage, and equality. I am open to all opinions and would like to hear all and every reason as to why you feel that way.

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    Jul 29 2013: Marriage, which seemed like a simple concept for many hundreds of years, has clearly become more complex, and we're in the middle of a process of reevaluation that may take a long time to get through.

    Some in this thread have wondered what the church has to do with marriage. Historically it has had everything to do with marriage. For many centuries, European governments left "moral" issues, including marriage, to the church. You could not get married outside the church, which also made rules about divorce. Some have wondered what the state has to do with marriage. As soon as governments decided to make special tax and inheritance rules for married couples, in order to protect the wife who was financially dependent on her husband, the state also needed to determine who were married.

    Back to the present: Other than religious motivations against permitting same-sex marriage, it seems to me that the main objection comes from the tax benefits mentioned above. But times have changed, and a wife is no longer dependent on her husband, so these benefits ought to be canceled. Then there will be no tax consequences of marriage.

    What I see in the future is a change to a kind of secular union based on contract, where any number of persons can contract together on self-selected terms. These could include specific financial or other responsibilities, a dissolution clause and even a termination date if that's desired. In other words, people in charge of their own relations, which would be nobody else's business. (There would be some official interest in minor children.)

    With such a system, the contracted parties would neither expect nor get any particular legal benefits, other than those they award one another in the contract. We could call such a group of people "married" if we want, though I suspect another term would develop. We might leave "marriage", "wedding", etc on the religious scrapheap, letting the churches continue to perform whatever ceremonies they please.

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