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Gay Marriage Rights

Obviously this is an extremely significant issue that has become a daily topic in many households. I am pretty young, starting high school next fall, and I have always been curious to listen to people's opinions on the topic of Gay Marriage, because it is an important part of my life.

I am a triplet, with a sister and a brother, and I suppose one could say I have a unique lifestyle. My siblings and I have been raised in two households our entire lives, the reason being that we have four parents. All of them are gay, meaning my mom's live together, and my dad's live together.

Both of my biological parents are in law enforcement, while my other dad and mom are stay-at-home parents. My mom's have been together for 20 years, and my dad's have been together for 19. We live in California, but my parents live 100 miles apart, with one house being located by the beach, and the other in the countryside. My dad's raise all kinds of animals, and they always teach us important values, along with my mom's as well.

My mom's got married a few years back, when gay marriage was okay in California for that short period of time. My dad's have not gotten married, but with the new laws, they are engaged now and hope to be married as soon as possible.

One of my dads is from Mexico, and he has been here for about 25 years. He is not a citizen, and now that he can get married to the person he loves, he will finally be recognized in the country he loves. My parents have always taught me to accept everyone, and I find it easy to get along with many different varieties of people.

I am starting this debate mainly because I am aware of the religious standpoints, and want to hear more about others outlooks and perspectives on gay marriage, and equality. I am open to all opinions and would like to hear all and every reason as to why you feel that way.


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  • Jul 2 2013: Government does not belong in the marriage business. That is for religion, church, or non-government social groups to control.
    Marriage is a religious term long before it is a legal one. The legal governmental interests can be covered in Civil Union legislation which should be available to any two consenting adults regardless of sexual orientation..
    By eliminating the word marriage we can build law for families that will be more realistic to the country's needs and less pushed out of balance by political considerations.
    • Jul 2 2013: David, the issue that keeps coming up, at least from what I have seen, is the desire to remake the word "marriage". The term "civil union" though completely appropriate and applicable, is not acceptable for those who want to be "married". I agree with your sentiments, I have just see the battle over the word "marriage" escalate.
      • Jul 3 2013: Everett, help me understand. Im curious as to why the need for distinction between "marriage" and "civil union"?
        Is it because most wish the term "marriage" be kept in sanctity and within the bounds of religion as a binding for life?....
        but if divorce in a country is legal and heterosexual couple have the capacity to utilize this.. wouldn't "marriage" be just the same as "civil union"? How can you have been married (for life) and yet underwent divorce?
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          Jul 29 2013: It's a legal issue, with no connection to religion.

          All states (in the US) have laws giving certain financial benefits to "married" persons.
          The term "civil union" can be defined in law to give certain recognitions and benefits, without giving all the (tax) breaks that are automatically connected with "marriage." Thus same-sex "C.U." is permitted in a number of states that choose not to permit s-s marriage.

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