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Gay Marriage Rights

Obviously this is an extremely significant issue that has become a daily topic in many households. I am pretty young, starting high school next fall, and I have always been curious to listen to people's opinions on the topic of Gay Marriage, because it is an important part of my life.

I am a triplet, with a sister and a brother, and I suppose one could say I have a unique lifestyle. My siblings and I have been raised in two households our entire lives, the reason being that we have four parents. All of them are gay, meaning my mom's live together, and my dad's live together.

Both of my biological parents are in law enforcement, while my other dad and mom are stay-at-home parents. My mom's have been together for 20 years, and my dad's have been together for 19. We live in California, but my parents live 100 miles apart, with one house being located by the beach, and the other in the countryside. My dad's raise all kinds of animals, and they always teach us important values, along with my mom's as well.

My mom's got married a few years back, when gay marriage was okay in California for that short period of time. My dad's have not gotten married, but with the new laws, they are engaged now and hope to be married as soon as possible.

One of my dads is from Mexico, and he has been here for about 25 years. He is not a citizen, and now that he can get married to the person he loves, he will finally be recognized in the country he loves. My parents have always taught me to accept everyone, and I find it easy to get along with many different varieties of people.

I am starting this debate mainly because I am aware of the religious standpoints, and want to hear more about others outlooks and perspectives on gay marriage, and equality. I am open to all opinions and would like to hear all and every reason as to why you feel that way.


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  • Jul 1 2013: My opinion is completely "divorced" from religious consideration. I am also perfectly agreeable with the notion that if two people love each other, it's perfectly all right to live together and the community at large should pay no disrespect to them.
    I also believe that when a homosexual couple get married, the employer should treat them as other heterosexual couples. And homosexual couples should enjoy the same advantage of tax treatment and other rights such as hospital visiting rights and serious medical decisions.
    However, I do have a reservation about certain tax and retirement pension laws on homosexual couple . First of all, certain definition if tax laws are based on that the government should award certain tax advantages to a marriage between a man and a woman because they would procreate children for them to nurture and support. The law does not distinguish between a married couple of heterosexuals whether they have children or not, as far as tax advantages are concerned. This could be quite consequential about inheritance of the entire wealth of one sppouse to the other. For instance, the widow or widower will inherit the entire estate without paying taxes when one of them dies. Now if homosexual couples also going to enjoy the same tax treatment, theoretically it's OK. But now suppose there are two sisters who, of course, normally love each other, so there are no reason to deny them to marry each other. Then there will be lot of such marriages for the sake of the tax benefit. This "advantage" also applies to social security benefit as well. Now, if the "marriage" occurred to a brother and a sister, it can be denied because of the genetic defects to the potential offspring to such marriage, but it doesn't apply to homosexual (bro to bro, sis to sis) marriage. There is nothing morally wrong or unfair for this new problem, but it would cause a fiscal problem for the government, or actually for the ordinary taxpayers as a group.
    • Jul 2 2013: The government gains if a stable household is established period regardless if it can procreate or not.
      That is the reason for the tax breaks and other advantages given in law to families.
      It costs a society less per person to have more families than singles in its population mix
      They will be able to adopt and raise children We have more than enough in orphanages and foster care...
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        Jul 29 2013: Good try but not so good history.

        All the laws that have given advantage to married couples - largely tax, pension and inheritance rules - have had one purpose: to protect the wife/mother who by social convention (and often by rules and laws) did not participate in a career outside the home. The husband was the breadwinner, and if he died the widow would be penurious, which would be a burden on society.

        These laws came about as a direct result of the financial dependency of the wife on the husband in the standard family when the laws were enacted. The women's revolution in the later part of the 20th century changed the financial workings of the standard family, and as a result many two-earner families are now getting tax breaks that were not intended for their situation. The need at present is to revise the codes to remove such benefits in situations that do not reflect the original reason for the laws, so that all are treated equally. The recent push by homosexuals to get in on these benefits illustrates the folly of allowing them to continue, at a public cost, and will probably motivate Congress and legislatures to make the needed revisions.

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