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Singer Songwriter & Vocal Coach, Lizanne Hennessey - Voice Coach


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How can we talk to kids?

How many of us have (albeit inadvertently) asked a child, "What are you going to be when you grow up"? Admittedly, I have caught myself doing this.

It's a bizarre way of making small-talk with a child, isn't it?
"Having fun in the sandbox? That's a cool sandcastle... so tell me, kid, what is your ultimate goal in life?" This isn't an easy question for anyone to answer, let alone a 5-year-old.

To me, this question reinforces the way our system is put together - which is designed to mold children into consumers, so they will be instrumental in our economic growth. At the same time, it is a question that can help us understand what drives our kids, what they are passionate about, what their dreams are...

In this article, Jennifer Fulwiler proposes that we should altogether stop asking kids this question, as it "reinforces the idea that the way to find identity and value is through career" and "undermines the concept of vocation":

How can we talk with kids, encourage them to explore who they are, and get them excited about who they will become, without asking such a weighty question? How can we allow them to expand their imaginations, and let them know they are taken seriously at the same time? How can we differentiate things like a purpose in life, as opposed to a career, in a way that children can focus on and hopefully achieve their passions?


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    Jul 8 2013: Try to think yourself as a kid, try to hunt down all the memories and situations that you had been through when you were a kid,the way you did act for some particular situations, the way you talk, the way you use to think,the way you choose to make friends, think about the things you thought are mistakes and shouldn't have done at the time you were a kid.
    Its actually a simple theory, if you have to deal with a mentally disturbed person,you have to act like one, you are not supposed to be normal,
    so with the kids, act like a kid when you are with a kid, do not make them stay at kindergartens and baby care centers, Rather hand them over to their grand parents where they can have the opportunity to know and explore more from their experience, which would be really help full for kids, at their kindergarten level have them involve in different activities with a right and planned schedule and make yourself involve with them and observe where they are being so keen at, plan their schedule in versatile manner, but not a same planned schedule every day,do not teach them morality , rather make them understand with skits and stories, do not ask them what they want to do when they grow up, rather explain every thing about what are the different fields and how life can be with some particular field, do not give them any choices, just put entire information off course in the way-- the kids language that could be understandable to kids, and let THEM choose, let THEM dream about what they wanted to be when they grow up, for that you create resources accordingly, encourage accordingly and plan accordingly
    May your kids have wonderful future and come up with flying colors-----------

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