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Singer Songwriter & Vocal Coach, Lizanne Hennessey - Voice Coach


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How can we talk to kids?

How many of us have (albeit inadvertently) asked a child, "What are you going to be when you grow up"? Admittedly, I have caught myself doing this.

It's a bizarre way of making small-talk with a child, isn't it?
"Having fun in the sandbox? That's a cool sandcastle... so tell me, kid, what is your ultimate goal in life?" This isn't an easy question for anyone to answer, let alone a 5-year-old.

To me, this question reinforces the way our system is put together - which is designed to mold children into consumers, so they will be instrumental in our economic growth. At the same time, it is a question that can help us understand what drives our kids, what they are passionate about, what their dreams are...

In this article, Jennifer Fulwiler proposes that we should altogether stop asking kids this question, as it "reinforces the idea that the way to find identity and value is through career" and "undermines the concept of vocation":

How can we talk with kids, encourage them to explore who they are, and get them excited about who they will become, without asking such a weighty question? How can we allow them to expand their imaginations, and let them know they are taken seriously at the same time? How can we differentiate things like a purpose in life, as opposed to a career, in a way that children can focus on and hopefully achieve their passions?


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    Jun 24 2013: If we want to ask anything to a child then we must have to think like a child then only he/she will give a proper reply of our question.
    it means that we have erase our gap between a child and an adult person ..... if we do like this then it will make ourselves easy to interact with a child ..... hope you got my view
    • Jun 24 2013: Kashaf, I am reading you loud and clear, and agree 100%.
      Stepping out of the 'grown up' world and stepping into a child's world is not as difficult as it seems - we all should be able to, we have all been kids before, right? ;)
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      Jun 24 2013: I LOVE that Kashaf..."erase our gap between a child and an adult person"......PERFECTLY UNDERSTOOD!

      Not only is it not difficult Lizanne.....it's a LOT of fun.....very enjoyable:>)

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