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Can you love someone you do not or no longer respect?

Some love, some say, is unconditional. I wonder: Is there such a thing? Does it bloom or continue even when respect has fallen by the wayside? Will you, can you, still love your spouse or friend if you learn they have acted in ways that have erased your respect? Can love and lack of respect co-exist? Why? Why not?

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    Jun 20 2013: well, it's pretty rare to have no respect for a person. Every person has some good, respectable qualities. Thus you can feel some love for them, also you can love them for their potential.
    • Jun 20 2013: Greg, thank you for replying. It would have been more useful had I said "when respect is undermined. or challenged."
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        Jun 20 2013: Betsy,
        What do your mean by respect being underminded, or challenged?
        • Jun 20 2013: I should have written "undermined" -- was probably thinking "underhanded!"

          If someone lies to me about a matter of significance (in my view), I may have some remaining trust that would be a seed for rebuilding, but my full-blown trust would have been undermined or challenged by that behavior.
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        Jun 20 2013: Betsy,
        You wrote "undermined"......I copied it wrong.....sorry.

        OK.....I understand....and agree. I tend to trust everyone until I have a reason not to trust. So, I guess that means that my trust or respect may, in that circumstance be undermined or challenged.

        I asked the question to clarify, because our respect/trust could be undermined/challenged by behaviors on the part of another person, and/or by our own insecurity.
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      Jun 20 2013: Dear Greg,
      I totally agree..."Every person has some good, respectable qualities. Thus you can feel some love for them, also and love them...for their potential".

      That just warms my heart my friend:>)

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