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Can you love someone you do not or no longer respect?

Some love, some say, is unconditional. I wonder: Is there such a thing? Does it bloom or continue even when respect has fallen by the wayside? Will you, can you, still love your spouse or friend if you learn they have acted in ways that have erased your respect? Can love and lack of respect co-exist? Why? Why not?

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    Jun 20 2013: People can love family members without respecting them, depending on how you define respect. For example, people can excuse many behaviors in their loved ones.
    • Jun 20 2013: Fritzie, you remind me that with any discussion, a definition of terms can be useful so everyone is replying to thesame intention. Good point you made!
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      Jun 20 2013: Fritzie,
      Is it lack of respect for the person? Or lack of respect for their actions/behaviors? If we can excuse behaviors, perhaps it is the behavior that we may not respect?
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        Jun 21 2013: I think of respect as being about behaviors. I know some people would suggest that one should respect people simply because of age or some other attribute not associated with behavior. To me. there is a difference between treating a person with respect and actually respecting the person.

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