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What inner change have you made to shift the entire trajectory of your life?

Serendipity can force change on any one of us.

Someone dies. A business closes. A tree falls. The lump grows too large to ignore. The spouse leaves. Love comes along. Lightning strikes.

But what inner change have you made knowingly and willingly -- even though it may have been very difficult -- to shift the entire trajectory of your life? Why? In what way(s) has this change made a difference in the manner in which you live?

For me: Mindfulness meditation works daily in and on my life. Few people are aware of this, though family and friends know my history of study. It helps me back down when I'd rather retort, it helps me move toward when I'd rather edge away.

These decisions are often quite insignificant in the whole play of life. You know, because you have your own scenarios. You let someone into the line of cars or you don't. We decide, sometimes in a split second. We all face these decisions.

You decide to continue to send a quick wave to the neighbor who never acknowledges anyone. This, instead of reacting: "Hey, she doesn't deserve it."

The influence of mindfulness: If you're someone who waves, then you wave.

So, mindfulness meditation over time has helped pumice my roughness, helped me take a breath before responding, to remember it's not all about me. Never was.

You: Have you adopted a philosophy or shifted course or educated yourself in some way that has made all the difference in changing the trajectory of your life?


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    From then on, my education path was the one I wanted, not usually the designed path. Prerequisites were just opinions and anything could be accomplished with enough signatures.
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