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Improving Your Life: Step 1 - Relax!

For the next few weeks I will be posting some steps I think are necessary to improve your life. Take the journey with me and give me your feedback. Let's build a strategy we can all use to improve our life and the lives of everyone around us!

Step 1 - Relax!

All of us have stories to tell. Some are exciting and full of progress. However, some of us struggle to understand what's going wrong. These posts will be an attempt to facilitate a conversation about progress. We need to move forward. I believe we can help each other do just that.

Step one of this process will be one of the hardest. We all have stress, and sometimes our stress is overwhelming. We need to take a step back and relax! Before our journey begins we must have an open mind. Take a second, sit back, and relax. Feelings of anxiety and stress will only prevent you from moving towards your goals.

What are some things that help you relax? What are your coping mechanisms?

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    Jun 20 2013: I think stress or pressure is somewhat a necessity in life,as crucial as relaxation is,it constantly pushing us to press on,strive for our goals.Question then is how do we balance stress and relaxation,this is a subtle issue that can be finely tackled through life experiences.I think those who are successful and content with their lives,probably master this balance.
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      Jun 20 2013: Jaden,
      Part of the definition of stress is:
      "a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation"

      Why do you think that is a necessity?

      Personally, I choose not to have stress in my life, and I experience passion, curiosity and love of the life adventure as adequate motivators:>)
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        Jun 20 2013: Thank you for the definition,Miss Steen,

        Actually I didn't know this precise definition,I thought it means motive,responsibility and some driving force,that's why I chose it as a necessity.My need to study English harder.

        But the part 'content' is come from the other conversation we had before,I think this is an ideal word to express 'happiness'.I learn quite a lot from you. 'Happy' is quite abstract,but 'content' has a kind of criterion that we can measure by our own proposition.

        I think motive is a necessity.Thanks for reminding me.
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          Jun 20 2013: Thanks Jaden,
          I learn a lot from you as well:>)

          It certainly CAN provide motivation, and I simply feel that there are better motivators....as I said...passion, curiosity and love of life.

          It is a good connection you make with contentment/happiness/stress. Generally, when people feel stressed, it is more of a feeling of discontent, rather than contentment. When we pursue the life adventure with passion, curiosity and love, it feels more content and joyfull, in my humble perception and experience:>)
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      Jun 20 2013: Hi Jaden, your view of stress is documented here:

      http://www.stress.org/what-is-stress/

      When you get to the fifth paragraph, you will note that some stress might result in productivity.
      but, very rapidly things begin to go wrong if a human remains in that state of stress for too long.

      Here in the US, at least, the word stress has a very negative conotation.

      Alot of people have it, but nobody wants it.

      In Spanish we have a play on words with stress....

      (tres, is the number three in spanish) So when someone says to a friend, "gee, you sure look s-tres-sed?" the reply might be, I am estressed, escuatro, escinco, esseis. (I am threed, foured, fived, sixed) to show just how worn down they are with problems that are wearing away at their vital energy.

      I think many of us, like Colleen says, make a mindful effort to keep stress out of our lives, or at least in control.
      It is something that you may be able to learn how to eliminate from your life by changing how you think.

      Everyone has a different way of handling things, I suppose.
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        Jun 20 2013: Hi,Mary,I've just read the article you offered,thanks.

        This is such an insightful article,'Many times we create our own stress because of faulty perceptions you can learn to correct' is what I meant,and the diagram reflects my way of looking at stress,is that your perception also?In Chinese,I think the word 'pressure' can be better able to express my definition.

        Spanish way of replying is so funny,LOL,it reminds me the words 'A successful man is the one who meets frustration with sense of humor'.

        Too much mental tension can be devastating if we let it constantly haunting us.Like a goal you know,rise of the family,primarily,it is the driving force,but if we don't manage to unwind once in a while,the driving force can transform to overwhelming stress,it will probably wear away 'vital energy'.
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          Jun 20 2013: Hi Jaden, I'm so glad you enjoyed that article.

          When I read your comment above, your words resonated with me because I felt that way in college. I worked best when I was under stress (pressure)....The pressure of having to study for more than one final exam, and turn in several research papers all in one week would be exciting....but also would wear and tear at my very being....but being young I didn't mind.

          Now, I see life a bit differently, and realize that it is important to begin to work early on deadlines....not wait until the last minute.....

          The article I linked was a very good one, wasn't it?
          I personally did not know the background of the word stress, and the studies done with it.
          I also learned quite a bit. There are many books on stress...one lifetime is not enough to read them all...LOL...it would be a stressful endeavor. :)

          As for humor....yes....injecting humor into situations is very therapeutic......we cannot take things too seriously. Of course, it depends on the situation at hand. Sometimes the use of humor is not appropriate.

          I think that it is important to, relax, when in stressful situations.
          Many times we worry unecessarily because we let our imagination get the better of us.

          Here is a quote from my collection regarding this:

          "I am an old man, and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened." Mark Twain

          I think many humans worry unnecessarily at times.....me included!
          I am trying to work on this.....it is an undo-it-yourself project.

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