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How do(did) you raise your kids?

My daughter is eleven years old now.I feel time flies so fast eventhough I still remember the first day my daughter went to kindergarten:so warm and cute...
I always keep the gratitude in my heart for the god sent me the most treasure gift to me:my daughter(although I am totally just an Atheism).
But meanwhile I being a mom,sometimes I do worry too...:worry if I miss any crisis time to support my daughter to growing up...worry what I share with her do help her or not?worry if I do try my best to take my resposibility for her or not...if I ignore sth which are very important in her growing...I know being worrying is good...But sometimes I still need to find balance for myself:)
So I would like you come to share with me your experience in raising your kids?Thanks.


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    Jun 16 2013: I did, and do, allow my kid to raise himself - he is human - and I presume that since humans survived this last 200,000 years, that they are qualified to continue doing just that.

    This is not neglect - it is a very hard task of passive nurturing - he is not forced, does not have to be forced, but when he shows a need of support in his quests and endeavours - he gets all we can give.

    The hardest part is to not be an obstacle.

    He is home schooled, and without prompting has surpassed the state curriculum - because he wanted to learn.

    So far so good. There's a few years yet before we can claim any kind of success - maybe there is no true measure of that - he's alive .. he's happy.
    • Jun 16 2013: Wowowowo...that's so great:) Dear Mitch Smith.Yup:there isn't true measure of that-she's alive...she's happy...she's dear she's cute...
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        Jun 16 2013: Yes. There is a very fine distinction between education and learning.
        The education idea tends to assume that a child is empty and must be filled.
        This is not correct. A child is active and will learn quickly whatever they have motive to learn.
        These motives seem to be partly built-in, but are mostly the joy of participation and emulation of role models.
        From these motives, questions arise and explorations begin.
        All along the way is nurture - with the main goal of providing a sense of acceptance and security.
        Once the child has this base, then it becomes the foundation to support inquiry.

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