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What were 5 things you wish you knew as a senior in high school?

I am just now a rising senior in high school. I have too many questions to ask and not many answers, but I realize now that I am at a golden opportunity (not many responsibilities) in my life to make big changes and preparations for a successful life in the future. How can we avid teenagers reasy to take on the future better prepare for life?

My love life has been less than exciting. Despite putting in an inordinate amount of effort, I have, only this year gotten my first kiss, an endeavor which ultimately ended the first inklet of a relationship I ever had.

I have taken many leadership roles for clubs and a nonprofit organization that is working on a penpal program between China and the US.

I enjoy investing and learning about the stock market.

I play tennis and rock climb.

I enjoy Photography and Videography.

I enjoy hanging out with my friends.

The point of this whole description really was to express the diversity of my interests-- and presumably the diversity of everyone's interests--and to express my dilemma. Where should I focus my attention to best prepare me for the future? What five things that you know now looking back would you tell me? What five things do you regret doing or not doing looking back? Which aspects of your life do you wish you had focused on?


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    Jun 30 2013: Hi Robert. Don't worry about your relationship status. It sounds like your IQ and EQ are beyond those of your current grade level anyway, which may indicate that you are simply too mature for most girls your age. Finding those girls with interest beyond Facebook, Twitter, and Justin Beiber will be a challenge for now, but will get easier in time.

    Most girls of this age group are extremely impressionable and are influenced heavily upon peer pressure. I saw the prettiest girls date the ugliest, most cro-magnon looking guys when I was in high school just because he drove a nice car, was on the football team, or was well respected by his peers through bullying or intimidation.

    My suggestions on dating are; don't give up, be yourself, know your limitations, take care of your appearance and hygiene, exude confidence (yet not cocky and don't come on too strong), be a good listener, show strength in character (have a backbone), be selfless, be romantic and sincere (chivalry is not dead), and last but not least.... learn to accept rejection positively. :-)

    As far as five things I wish I knew, only one really comes to mind. I wish I knew that I was truly capable of more, that I did have the ability achieve careers that to some seem out of reach. I'm currently a Field Service Engineer, which I enjoy to an extent and pays fairly good as well. However, I was an accomplished artist in high school, even having a piece displayed in the St. Louis Museum of Art. Even though I loved art and my teachers thought I should pursue a career in art, I didn't see it supporting me. I now find orthodontics or plastic surgery would have been a career path I would have enjoyed thoroughly, as there is artistic value and great attention to detail in that line of work, not to mention it more than pays the bills. :-)

    It sounds cliche, but you really can do anything that you set your mind to. Best wishes.

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