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What were 5 things you wish you knew as a senior in high school?

I am just now a rising senior in high school. I have too many questions to ask and not many answers, but I realize now that I am at a golden opportunity (not many responsibilities) in my life to make big changes and preparations for a successful life in the future. How can we avid teenagers reasy to take on the future better prepare for life?

My love life has been less than exciting. Despite putting in an inordinate amount of effort, I have, only this year gotten my first kiss, an endeavor which ultimately ended the first inklet of a relationship I ever had.

I have taken many leadership roles for clubs and a nonprofit organization that is working on a penpal program between China and the US.

I enjoy investing and learning about the stock market.

I play tennis and rock climb.

I enjoy Photography and Videography.

I enjoy hanging out with my friends.

The point of this whole description really was to express the diversity of my interests-- and presumably the diversity of everyone's interests--and to express my dilemma. Where should I focus my attention to best prepare me for the future? What five things that you know now looking back would you tell me? What five things do you regret doing or not doing looking back? Which aspects of your life do you wish you had focused on?


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  • Jun 26 2013: Hi Robert, this is a fantastic question, it's really made me think and look back on my life and what I would have changed if I could. My five things would be:

    1) Stop caring what other people think. I speant years trying to please people, trying to fit in etc. and I can honestly say when I stopped caring and stopped trying that was when I became happy and made great friends.

    2) Put school work first. I was always classed as a "bright" student, but when given the choice between staying in to study or going out, I would inevitaby go out. As much fun as it may seem at the time trust me when I say it's not worth it. Stay in and study, do the homework that needs doing or the course work, and then once that's done then go out.

    3) Do what you want to do. When I started collage I took the subjects that teachers had recomeneded I do as I was good at them but they were not subjects that I was passionate about. I wish more than anything that I had had the courage to make my own path rather than following what others said, as I am still trying now to get back on "my" path.

    4) Quite a few people on here have mentioned meditation, it's not something I would of thought of myself, but I think it's a fantastic idea. When you leave school and start collage/work you can get days when the stress is just crazy. Learning different ways to handle that stress at an earlier age is a great idea.

    5) Never give up! So many times when I was younger I gave up on things because I was too shy or too afraid to fail. Jump at any oppertunity you're given and keep at it no matter how hard it may seem as at the end of it all it will be worth it. (I was to afraid of failing to take a scholarship test . . . boy do I now regret that!)

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