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What were 5 things you wish you knew as a senior in high school?

I am just now a rising senior in high school. I have too many questions to ask and not many answers, but I realize now that I am at a golden opportunity (not many responsibilities) in my life to make big changes and preparations for a successful life in the future. How can we avid teenagers reasy to take on the future better prepare for life?

My love life has been less than exciting. Despite putting in an inordinate amount of effort, I have, only this year gotten my first kiss, an endeavor which ultimately ended the first inklet of a relationship I ever had.

I have taken many leadership roles for clubs and a nonprofit organization that is working on a penpal program between China and the US.

I enjoy investing and learning about the stock market.

I play tennis and rock climb.

I enjoy Photography and Videography.

I enjoy hanging out with my friends.

The point of this whole description really was to express the diversity of my interests-- and presumably the diversity of everyone's interests--and to express my dilemma. Where should I focus my attention to best prepare me for the future? What five things that you know now looking back would you tell me? What five things do you regret doing or not doing looking back? Which aspects of your life do you wish you had focused on?

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    Jun 24 2013: Opportunity comes once in a life time.
    Hey Palsey,
    I loved your article. It brings back memories of my school days. Alright rather than write a story, I'm gonna answer your questions by order.
    Where should I focus my attention to best prepare me for the future?
    Well when I was in school, I totally didn't know what to do with my life man. I was just living in the present then. "Come what may!" Kind of an attitude. So I happen to write an Engineering Entrance Exam in India and I end up in an Architecture College. Btw I never thought of studying Architecture till I got my results. I'm living a pretty weird life right now but I'm just pulling myself together trying to get through and finish this course.

    What five things that you know now looking back would you tell me?
    I should have started P90X when I was in school so that I could have edged out my peers in sports and all. I should have asked out the hottest chick in school. I shouldn't have been a shy guy. I should have spoken up in class and asked them bum teachers me doubts. I should have lost my virginity. I should have found my love for chess (I just found it recently)

    What five things do you regret doing or not doing looking back?
    1)Singing a song with a bunch of friends in front of a large audience and then all of a sudden start laughing in front of the audience for no particular reason.
    2)I regret joining St.John's High School when I had the chance to join DPS South Bangalore or even BIshop Cottons for that matter. Yes I didn't like the school studied in.
    3)I should have read a lot of books but I didn't have any kind of support at home or at school to encourage me. Reading books widen your horizon.
    4)I shouldn't have watched a lot of TV. (TV destroys lives man)
    5)I should have set my goals back then.

    Which aspects of your life do you wish you had focused on?
    1)Chess
    2)Bodybuilding
    3)Pick up lines & memorizing jokes
    4)Center of attraction at a party or something
    5)To Become a Billionaire(or atleast Mill
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      Jun 24 2013: "3)Pick up lines & memorizing jokes
      4)Center of attraction at a party or something
      5)To Become a Billionaire(or atleast Mill"

      Wow if everyone was driven towards those goals the world would be even more fucked and corrupt than it already is. Im sorry but those are really shallow goals. Goal #3 implies you want to present yourself as someone else and not be true to your own qualities; merely learning scripts of someone else. Goal #4 means that you are quite vain. Goal #5 means that you are a shallow money hungry person. The last one is the worst IMO. That is to follow the dream we are sold in education; to be capitalists, and that this is what success is. In reality it is this perspective that has left the world intertwined heavily in tyranny from banks and politicians. We are told that material produce makes the world better. When in fact it often enslaves foreigners who produce these in factories via forced labour, pollutes the planet, causes disconnection/division and forces ourselves to work because we have got ourselves in debt though greed. What about trying to do something that makes you happy first. You only get one life and money is a very superficial objective. See the "top regrets of the dying" which was a guardian article showing the things the elderly on death bed wished they had really pursued.

      http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying
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        Jun 24 2013: Lol!!! true true man!! but the main reason I type in all that stuff is because I haven't been laid man. I mean I'm 20 already dude!!
        I just want to be financially free man. I'm not material minded man but I'm keen on making some money to buy me self at least an Harley Davidson man.

        Your reply was very interesting, insightful and enlightening. I think I'll dwell on them and focus more on improving me & the environment around me rather than go for them low life things.
        Thanks again!!

        But I sure as hell will focus on bodybuilding and chess!!
        These are two things that can set you free in today's world!! (According to me bro)
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          Jun 24 2013: Sorry for sounding condescending. To be fair a lot of them goals were similar to mine before I began to understand more about how the world operates. I am only 3 years older. You will get laid just work on honourable qualities which you would like a girl to be attracted to. E.g. if you attract a girl though money you will get a superficial gal who is less about important things and more concerned with money. Getting identity capital through experience and knowledge is a good way to go I guess. It took me a long time to "get laid"! Sex is great and all but being in a relationship is probably better for your mentality than random sex; which is very detached from emotion. One night stands often involve drink and a lack of intimacy. Sex is not what is is portraid to be in the "movies" either. Once in a relationship it is totally different, so be careful for what draws you in. And when it comes to capitalism - wanting lots of money. I can see why you think this is good. It gives you comfort/security. Thing is - capitalism, it is for the use of consumerism: buying more and more. Working more and more. I dont believe necessarily in god but if there is a path to hell consumerism must surely be it. This is where we sacrifice the hours of our life in work to have some new shiny product; which more often than not - adds little meaning or value to our lives. As opposed to ways that an experience such as exploring might. We become detached, brain washed and forget the problems in our world. People love their products so much that they dont care about revealed scandals which highlight ethical atrocities in their devise. Such as chinese ipad makers who sign non-suicide pledges following all of the work related suicides. Or the way that nintendo's produce has been created by men, women and children held at gunpoint. We were sold a hollow promise that technology and commerce does good for people fo the world: it enslaves, distracts and pollutes.

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