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FATHERS DAY TRIBUTE: What did your dad do that was most influential and formative in your life?

What did your dad do that was most influential and formative in your life?

Becoming a father is a role shift from the normal struggles of everyday life. A father sort of defines his role in the life of a child based on his experience, intuition, and observations. As much as you would like to think every move was planned, often they are often just guessing what they think will work based on their own lives and preconceived ideas about what a father should be.

So here is an opportunity to help new fathers and honoring fathers no longer present by sharing some of the things you thing your father dad that were influential and telling why they were influential.

For example, my father was an engineer and I am an engineer.
My father use to let all three sons pitch to him when he got home from work. All of us played baseball through high school. Although my father was not a Scout, he like the program and became a leader. I was an Eagle Scout and became both a Cub master and Scout master. My dad taught me to fish early and I fished all through my life as a child, taught my kids how to fish and have done the same for many nieces and nephews.

Caring, sharing, teaching, never giving up, planning ahead, and just being there are the low hanging fruit in figuring out the fatherhood question. But the little things that really made a difference are often subtle and have an impact that is not immediate.

So what worked? Did your dad do something special or different that made a difference in your life that you would be willing to share with other folks still figuring out the fatherhood role?


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    Jun 9 2013: My dad left. I don't even know what he looks like. This seems tragic but it taught me to never do that to any of my future children. His absence taught me something very important. Never be like him. Never be a coward. Never! He is nothing close to a great man but he (his absence) taught me a great lesson and that is the only thing, besides helping create me, that i would ever thank him for. Don't be sad for me. If he didn't leave, I would probably be a coward and nowhere close to the person I am today. :D
    • Jun 9 2013: Wow, Jah,
      I just want to applaud you for sharing this, and making the conscious choice to be what your father couldn't be.
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        Jun 9 2013: It wasn't that he couldn't Liz. He wouldn't and i won't make the same choice he did when the situation is mine. If you can lay down and do the deed, be ready to step up to the plate. It's that simple.
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        Jun 11 2013: No I haven't been Liz. I just been cooling off from all the nonsense that comes with giving my opinion. :D Back to normal now though!
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        Jun 11 2013: Ain't that the truth but I don't like this "normal" thing. Never have. I'd rather be an oddball. It's way more fun.
    • Jun 9 2013: Jah did you have a father figure in your life? (it isn't just about biology)
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        Jun 9 2013: None that stuck around long enough to play the role. Just my mom, grandmother, and aunt really. Men seem to be bad at manning up in my experience. I'm glad I had strong women to teach me how to be strong.
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      Jun 11 2013: I am not sad for you Jah, as I am not sad for myself. I relate to your story a little bit. Although my father didn't leave (that would have been a gift), he was violent and abusive. He taught me how NOT to "be". Luckily, we had an unconditionally loving mom for balance, and I liked her "lesson" a LOT better:>)

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