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Theodore A. Hoppe

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So, what is the purpose of men in modern families?

There are several Op-Ed debate in the New York Times asking, or attempting to answer, this question.
http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2013/06/03/what-are-fathers-for?hp

"In almost half the American households with children, mothers are the sole or primary breadwinners. This victory for working women shows evolving family economics — or maybe, two very different types of families.

So what is the purpose of men in modern families? We’re approaching the holiday that celebrates dads, but do fathers bring anything unique to the table?"

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  • Jun 16 2013: Last Continuation of previous post (sorry for the length...I am just rather passionate about this topic):

    The role of the father is to help their children develop, grow and flourish mentally, intellectually, spiritually, and socially just as the mother does. It is not until we reach a point that the prevailing opinion on our society supports this fact that we will have true gender equality in the family. It is becoming more and more supported that women can be the breadwinner, as it should be, but now we also need to accept the fact that fathers can and should play the same role in their children’s development as the mother. Gender equality is only equality when gender does not come into the equation at all.
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      Jun 16 2013: Excellent essay.
      I applaud your effort and thank you for contributing to this discussion
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      Jun 17 2013: " Gender equality is only equality when gender does not come into the equation at all. " One of the wisest statements, and one which my father said slightly differently, to me when I was a child; " Everyone is equal and gender doesn't come into the equation at all."

      Bravo Michael!!
    • Jun 18 2013: Well said but what about when the roles are provided by two men or two women? In this case is there an equality as well?
      • Jun 18 2013: I would be tempted to say that there would be sex equality because biological sex is obviously not playing a role in the division of labor. There may or may not be gender equality. That would be dependent on the individual situation and on if one of the two partners has assumed a different gender identity than the other in the construct of the masculine or the feminine. However, for true equality these gender constructs need to be deconstructed. If labor is broken down without thought to gender roles (or another other type of societal categorization) or based on skill than I would consider that equality.

        Thanks for taking the time to ask a question James. I enjoy the discussion.

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